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to be annoyed that i have no idea where my hubby is?

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fostermumtomany Tue 31-May-11 10:35:56

i woke up at half 7 this morning. hubby is not in bed, not downstairs and after several frantic phonecalls, nowhere to be bloody found.

my daughter heard him leave the house at 5.30am as the door closing woke her up.
he has left his mobile at home, no note nothing.
aibu to want to kick his head in?
he has never ever done this before and i am worried as last week he got very upset over something my son said and hasnt really been right since. although when i have tried to talk to him about what is wrong he just says nothing.
i am not impressed!!!!

FabbyChic Tue 31-May-11 10:41:49

Is he depressed? Could he have harmed himself in any way?

Have you tried all his friends and family?

Did he take the car?

AuntieMonica Tue 31-May-11 10:43:27

have you checked the garage etc?

he might have gone out for a bit of fresh air and got locked in/fallen?

SunshineisSorry Tue 31-May-11 10:44:48

oh, that is worrying - i would feel exactly the same. Think of anywhere he might be and call them. Is he meant to be at work by now? could you call to see if he pitched up. Maybe he just needs some space, but if you are worried and this is out of character, im sorry to say this, but id be calling the police.

NunTheWiser Tue 31-May-11 10:45:46

Does he have any friends or family that he might have gone to see if he's a bit down and needs a chat?

AgentZigzag Tue 31-May-11 10:46:26

Yes, I'd be worried too if it's not his usual behaviour.

Can I ask what your son said last week?

It's quite a long time to have it pent up inside and only be acting on it this morning.

Has he got a job he should be back at today?

sausagesandmarmelade Tue 31-May-11 10:47:47

I would be worried sick...

Hope he's ok and that you hear from him soon.

Rapaccioli Tue 31-May-11 10:50:17

Might he now be at work?

Would he have gone to somewhere where he can clear his head, where he goes fishing, plays golf or walks the dog for example?

Other family members? Friends? Has he got a childhood place where he might go to think?

I agreed with the poster above in that if, failing any of these bringing an answer, you're still worried call the Police, if only for your own peace of mind and sense of being able to 'do something'.

PrincessJenga Tue 31-May-11 11:03:14

Oh how worrying for you!

Could he have a work meeting or something that you didn't know about? I often wake up confused about where DP is, then remember he's gone to X city for a meeting. Does he have a car and is it there now? Was he due at work today & have you called to see if he's there?

I agree with the others. Call everywhere you can think of. Then call the police (local number, not 999)

I hope he turns up (&apologises!!!) soon.

ticklebug74 Tue 31-May-11 11:03:57

Is this out of character for him? Did he take his keys/wallet? Any idea what he was wearing? And what the other posters have said - is he meant to be at work and a no show? And I agree if you have no joy in tracking him down notify the police of your concern. Not sure they can do anything at first but at least you will feel like you have done something. Hope he comes back soon and has a bloody good explanation for going awol!

nometime Tue 31-May-11 11:07:09

Call everywhere start with work even if he's not supposed to be there and then anywhere you can think of. How old are your DC, can you leave them with somebody and have a drive around looking for him. Hope he turns up soon. Good luck.

SunshineisSorry Tue 31-May-11 11:49:12

Please let us know what happens OP.

grovel Tue 31-May-11 12:52:33

No news?

Mumofaflump Tue 31-May-11 13:27:19

Oh, I feel for you. I hope he is ok. No new advice I'm afraid. Agree with all that has already been said.

COCKadoodledooo Tue 31-May-11 13:31:05

Has he not simply gone to work? Take it you've called there? Friends, family?

Hope he turns up soon.

mousymouse Tue 31-May-11 13:31:29

agree with others, call his mates, work, a&e of the local hospital.
check if the passport is there.
hope he turns up soon!

AgentZigzag Tue 31-May-11 13:42:12

You alright there fostermum?


PigletJohn Tue 31-May-11 13:45:41



TheReturnoftheSmartArse Tue 31-May-11 13:47:36

Hopefully she's found him, they've had a massive barney, they're both now sulking and she's forgotten she was worried enough to post!

Threads like this always make me a leeeetle anxious, though ...

BradfordMum Tue 31-May-11 13:49:53

Any update?

kreecherlivesupstairs Tue 31-May-11 13:50:47


Badgerwife Tue 31-May-11 13:59:54

I do hope you find him, I would be beside myself with worry too, especially when it's completely out of character like this. Good luck and keep us posted

Moodykat Tue 31-May-11 14:04:48

Still no news?

PrincessJenga Tue 31-May-11 14:11:00

I'm also hoping ReturnOfTheSmartArse is right. OP's found him and is so busy screaming at him and pulling the angry face that there's been no time to update the mumsnet worriers.

elephantpoo Tue 31-May-11 14:54:50

hope you and DH are ok OP x

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