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being upset by my husband demolishing part of my restaurant meal today.

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snowaddict Mon 30-May-11 21:19:04

I had been looking forward all weekend to going to my favourite pub/restaurant.

This afternoon when my meal arrived - a very neatly constructed dome of fragrant rice etc etc. - I commented straight away on how lovely the meal looked and before my eyes he demolished the rice dome in seconds.

It was not just that he spoilt the look of the dish. He know how I had been looking forward to it.

I had been quite chatty before he did this. When I asked him why he had spoilt it he said he was sick of hearing me go on about the rice.

I felt I did'nt want to eat it anymore and felt upset he just kept saying its only rice. But that's not the point.

I'm so upset with him. He just does'nt get it. I would not dream of doing something like that to him.

Am I being too sensitive - He says I should just forget about it move on.

chelstonmum Mon 30-May-11 21:20:19

You are being to sensitive but he is being an arse!

curtaincall Mon 30-May-11 21:22:03

That's just mean !

MrsSippy Mon 30-May-11 21:22:16

childish twonk!


curtaincall Mon 30-May-11 21:22:19

... and very childish

piratecat Mon 30-May-11 21:22:38

what a childish thing to do, is he a sulker?

BornInAfrica Mon 30-May-11 21:23:54

Sounds like a grade A prat to me

olibeansmummy Mon 30-May-11 21:23:54

Tbh I wouldn't care in the slightest!

barbie007 Mon 30-May-11 21:24:15

How annoying, I would have hated it too

GypsyMoth Mon 30-May-11 21:24:27

he's right though!!!

you really should do as he says....forget about it....and 'move on'!!!!grin

idiot that he is!!

2rebecca Mon 30-May-11 21:24:39

He is behaving like your 10 year old older brother not your husband.
I wouldn't have been upset, I'd have been angry. Can't imagine being married to a bloke who'd do something like that though. Aggressive and bullying.

kaid100 Mon 30-May-11 21:25:25

Well, if my wife went on about a dome of rice I'd roll my eyes and be gently joking about it, but I generally try not to spoil people's fun so I'd leave the rice dome for her to demolish by eating it.

DorisIsAPinkDragon Mon 30-May-11 21:25:29

He is being a knob and a bit of a bully to spoil something he knows asethetically pleases you.

Is he a knob over other things too?

CoffeeDodger Mon 30-May-11 21:25:50

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

pinkdelight Mon 30-May-11 21:26:56

You sound quite sulky too - he spoilt it so you didn't want it any more and weren't going to enjoy yourself. Sounds like major subtext. Or else you're both just tired and tetchy.

chicletteeth Mon 30-May-11 21:27:19

He's a twat.
But, it is only rice.....

HerHissyness Mon 30-May-11 21:27:20

Red flag here. what a total arse, what ELSE does he ruin, just because you like it.

WhoAteMySnickers Mon 30-May-11 21:28:31

YANBU to feel upset with him, what a knob.

ohmyfucksy Mon 30-May-11 21:28:39

I would be annoyed.

Is this symptomatic? Does he usually enjoy putting down things you enjoy?

FabbyChic Mon 30-May-11 21:29:27

Messing with someone elses food is childish and twatish.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Mon 30-May-11 21:30:14

I understand where you're coming from, OP, it's not the rice, it's the fact that you firstly had looked forward to going and secondly, expressed pleasure at the format of your dish. Your husband spoiled it for no reason that I can see. Like sandcastle-smashing... he sounds a bit of a bully actually.

I would have walked out and left him to it.

MalkieFraser Mon 30-May-11 21:30:27

How much were you going on about it? A dome of rice is a dome of rice, not the Sistine Chapel. He must have been really pissed off. You can recreate the dome quite easily with some Mr Ben's and a cup. Take photos, frame, keep forever. YABU.

ohmyfucksy Mon 30-May-11 21:32:47

I simply don't see the need to get so pissed off about someone expressing pleasure at something. Unless you are a complete twat with issues...

SmethwickBelle Mon 30-May-11 21:33:21


Next time he orders a nice steak pie, lean over and punch it flat on the plate. Hand him his fish and chips after you've squashed the fish in your hands.

Sometimes people only get it if you demonstrate your point I find.

ClaireDeLoon Mon 30-May-11 21:34:07

He spoils things just because you enjoy them? He sounds awful tbh. Makes me sad when I read posters saying it's nothing, your DP being mean to you is not nothing.

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