I have been friends with X for 20 years, met at secondary school. I spent a few years abroad and just before I returned friend moved 1 hour away for her DH's job. I am a LP and we both work. We see each other every few weeks and talk on phone/ text a lot.
I have DS 6 and she has DD's 5 (6 in 2 weeks) & 7.
Due round here today and DS out playing when arrived so comes over to see them and I go outside. DS wants to introduce them to his friends and tells them that is Y from my school - pointing over the road. The 5yr old says really rudely 'Do I go to your school, do I know her?' DS said 'no, she goes dancing too like you'. 5 yr old replies (again rudely) 'do I know her?, no, so do I care?, I don't want to talk about it' DS looks at me I say just ignore it and tell me instead. The oldest wanted to play out but wasn't allowed as youngest said she wanted to go in so I bought DS in too.
They created a mess as expected and when hot lunch nearly ready I said can they just spend the 10 minutes picking toys up. (were going out for afternoon.)
Off they trot - DS and 7 yr old start putting stuff in boxes haphazardly! and 5 yr old sits down refusing to help. Both oldest tell her to help but she says she needs a drink so leaves room and comes to me. I tell her of course, help tidy and I'll make them all one to have with dinner - I was taking things from the oven at the time. She returns to DS room and says loudly enough for the street to hear to DS 'Your mum is lazy, she should pick toys up if it bothers her that much, I hate her stupid rules.'
This upset DS who comes to me. I kissed him, told him to ignore it and that she was mistaking me for someone that cared. (her DD appeared at this point and heard me and so stropped through a huge tantrum!)
Now this is where I was . My friend told me not to be so mean. That her DD was only joking and I shouldn't be telling DS to ignore her DD again whilst hugging her DD and offering her sweets and ice cream when out if shes good stops the tantrum.
I said I wasn't, I had not said anything to her DD, that is her job to disapline her hint hint . Things were tense for a few minutes but I served dinner and chat just took off again.
IANBU right - if a child chooses to be rude ( and I believe she knows she was) then they have to expect people to react badly to it?
We have discussed camping in the summer holidays together in my 5 man tent but I think I'll be suggesting 2 tents would be better - its not that big as it is especially if picking your own mess up is criminal.
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youarekidding · 30/05/2011 20:45
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