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to say no to my friend because she has bratty kids

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insertcleverusernamehere Mon 30-May-11 13:29:20

They invariably wreck something valuable or necessary every time they come. Now she's ill (nothing serious) and asked me to help her out by having them move in with us for a few days. I said no. AIBU?

Ruprekt Mon 30-May-11 13:30:09

Not at all.

I would do it for nice children but not brats!!

worraliberty Mon 30-May-11 13:32:00

What's wrong with her?

I don't do brats, and believe me they'd run screaming for the hills if they stayed with me.

But I would consider it if a very good frined was very ill and had no-one else to help out.

If she was just a Diva with a cold then no way.

insertcleverusernamehere Mon 30-May-11 13:32:24

Just say no, or explain why and try somehow to unbratty-ise them?

ManicAnnie Mon 30-May-11 13:33:09

How ill is she? If my friend was seriously ill / unable to cope, I would say 'yes' no matter how 'bratty' her kids were.

insertcleverusernamehere Mon 30-May-11 13:33:18

I'd be cooking and washing for all of them, not just kids. Tendonitis.

TheFlyingOnion Mon 30-May-11 13:33:38

wow, some friend you are!

Its only a few days, and your "friend" needs your help....

worraliberty Mon 30-May-11 13:34:39

Who is 'all of them' if it's not just kids?

insertcleverusernamehere Mon 30-May-11 13:38:08

Worral, her, her DH, and kids.

By bratty I mean chucking clean folded laundry out of windows, insisting they are starving and only cocopops will do (I now stock cocopops after my friend said I can't expect her kids to eat rabbit food - my DC eat frozen peas, carrot sticks, rice cakes etc for snacks), and everything in between.

cardibach Mon 30-May-11 13:39:23

Is her husband also ill? If not why are they not able to cope?

worraliberty Mon 30-May-11 13:40:25

Your children snack on frozen peas? confused

Can her DH not take some time off work? Is there anyone else to step in? How close are you and your friend?

insertcleverusernamehere Mon 30-May-11 13:41:04

He's fine. it's part of the bigger picture - her DH won't lift a finger if friends can be roped in to do it instead.

HerHissyness Mon 30-May-11 13:43:28

YANBU, not at all - it's only a few days her H can pick up the slack.

insertcleverusernamehere Mon 30-May-11 13:44:18

Yes my DS does he loves them! very sweet. I know we eat more veg than they do etc, I don't expect other kids to like it, I'm happy to provide biscuits, yoghurt etc, and did end up buying said cocopops. I just don't like kids demanding them.

Goblinchild Mon 30-May-11 13:45:06

You should not encourage her husband in his sloth, so stick to no.
They are his children too, so he needs to shoulder the weight.

fairydoll Mon 30-May-11 13:45:19

i would say 'yes' and sort the brats out, bigtime!

insertcleverusernamehere Mon 30-May-11 13:45:21

who's up for a weird snack spin-off thread?

Ruprekt Mon 30-May-11 13:45:21

hmm so a WHOLE family with a DH as well would move into your house and you would do EVERYTHING for them.

No waaaaaaaaaaaaay is this a real request from a human?

YADDDDDNBU.

How odd.

insertcleverusernamehere Mon 30-May-11 13:46:08

Fairydoll - what's your opinion on 'educating' other people's kids? seriously.

Mollydollydoll Mon 30-May-11 13:46:58

YANBU if they were nightmare kids I wouldn't have them. Sorry but I'm
being truthful.

Goblinchild Mon 30-May-11 13:48:11

You can't sort out brats properly unless they are your own or you are responsible for them in some other way.
I'm putting the snack thing down to smuggery. grin

papermate Mon 30-May-11 13:48:27

I would house them if they needed me, but they would have to eat our food, i wouldnt stock up on anything.

QuintessentialOldMoo Mon 30-May-11 13:48:44

Say no. You are not married to your friend "in sickness and in health", her partner is.

Georgimama Mon 30-May-11 13:49:48

Not unreasonable if there is a perfectly capable father to these children who prefers to sit on his arse. Not at all.

QuintessentialOldMoo Mon 30-May-11 13:50:16

In fact, they would not be my friends any more if they requested this.

Are you the poster who has a friend who keep asking you to babysit and do all this sort of shit for them, as her dh, who is not working, can go to the gym, and stuff?

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