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Dd wants to go to the cinema with <gasps> BOYS!

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wudu Sun 29-May-11 22:48:19

Noooo ... shock

This wasn't supposed to be happening for at least another 10 3 years!

There's a group of them wanting to go, 4 girls, 2 boys, one of them is dd's 'boyfriend'.

I say 'boyfriend' because she's got absolutely no intention of kissing him (I've told her that her tongue will fall out wink ) and won't hold his hand because "boys don't wash their hands properly when they've had a wee" grin

But still ...! There will be BOYS!! <faints>

I'm stalling madly and haven't given her an answer yet.

Should I let her go?

Gah, why do they have to grow up <sobs>

BrawToken Sun 29-May-11 22:49:11

What age is she?

worraliberty Sun 29-May-11 22:50:36

(Bangs head on keyboard at missing age info) l;wejrhpoweur908-75q3809973489!!!!!!

grin

wudu Sun 29-May-11 22:51:29

Sorry, that would help wouldn't it. She's 11. A baby!

I would be dropping her off and picking her up btw. And tbf they're lovely sensible children. But there will be BOYS there!!!!

wudu Sun 29-May-11 22:52:04

grin worral

Wottywot Sun 29-May-11 22:53:07

How old is she OP? If she is like 19 there's no need to worry, just let her go! grin

worraliberty Sun 29-May-11 22:54:10

It seems nowadays most groups of friends are mixed.

When I was 11 I wouldn't be seen dead with a smelly boy in my circle of friends, but it's all changed now.

My 8yr old DS has almost as many female friends as male...same with my 12yr old and 19yr old.

I don't think I really had mixed sex friendships til I was around 15?

tomhardyismydh Sun 29-May-11 22:54:13

let her go, whats the worst that could happen, she loses her tongue and gets wee wee germs, if she has any sence she will supervise the hand washing grin

BrawToken Sun 29-May-11 22:54:46

Hmmmm, I'd let her. Mine is 13 and did this at 11 with a big gang of bos and girls and lived to tell the tale.

UrsulaBuffay Sun 29-May-11 22:55:12

boys are hoomans too

MadamMemoo Sun 29-May-11 22:58:02

My DD is 12 and one of her best friends is a boy. he goes on sleepovers with the girls and everything

wudu Sun 29-May-11 22:58:03

grin tom

Oooh but I don't want to let her ...that's not the answer I wanted!

Ursula - they're BOYS. Nuff said <glares>

tomhardyismydh Sun 29-May-11 22:59:13

I bet they wont be kissing and holding hands anyway, wont they be lobbing popcorn and getting scowled at.

UrsulaBuffay Sun 29-May-11 22:59:19

I can talk my DDs 2

<gloats for a few years yet>

although she does kiss a boy at nursery!

PacificDogwood Sun 29-May-11 22:59:41

Why on earth is this boy your DD's 'boyfriend' and not a friend who is a boy??
FWIW, I would not worry too much about a group of them going to the cinema together - it is roughly the age I started going to the cinema with friends and whithout adult supervision.
I just think it is a bit sad/wrong/has the potential to backfire to segregate them at that age.

She'll be 15 going on 25 soon enough wink

wudu Sun 29-May-11 22:59:57

But he's her 'boyfriend' memoo ...that's much worse ...surely!

...she's a baby!! arrgghhhh

tomhardyismydh Sun 29-May-11 23:01:03

I always have had mixed group friends.

the sleepover thing at 12 would seriously have to be reconsidered at some point soon if |I were parents of 12 yr olds. luckily dd is 5.

wudu Sun 29-May-11 23:02:15

Hmm don't gloat for long Ursula - I'm going to come back to haunt you wink

Pacific - they tell each other "love you" shock

izzywhizzyletsgetbusy Sun 29-May-11 23:04:23

<waves smelling salts under wudu's nose>

Providing she's over 21, I see no reason why your dd shouldn't go the cinema with a mixed sex group of her friends.

I assume you'll be dropping her off at the venue and picking her up when the film is over and can sneak into the auditorium after the programme's begun to make sure that your dd is not in need of more popcorn?

LaWeasel Sun 29-May-11 23:04:30

They're 11! They will hold sweaty hands in the dark and spend so long awkwardly thinking about having a kiss they never actually get around to it.

At least, that's how my first date at 12 went! We did eventually kiss, by about date 3 and then broke up not long after having satisfied our curiosity about what kissing is all about...

UrsulaBuffay Sun 29-May-11 23:05:40

I will be here in 9 years wailing!

lesley33 Sun 29-May-11 23:06:40

At 11 the idea of a boy friend doesn't mean that much. They may hold hands in the cinema. But I bet your DD soends more time talking to her friends about her boyfriend than anything else.

wudu Sun 29-May-11 23:07:57

LaWeasel - stop that talk right now! Kissing indeed, pfft. My dd likes her tongue you know!

Oh yes izzy, I would be dropping off, picking up and spying making sure she's ok. Still not happy though ...

smallpotato Sun 29-May-11 23:09:15

I remember going to the cinema with my first boyfriend with a group of friends when I was 12. To watch Wayne's World grin. He didn't even hold my hand <sobs> . Then the next week at school he dumped me. Not even to my face, he told my best friend <double sob>

Let her go, it's a rite of passage and she will have a fun giggly time (said as the mum of 2 preshool girls so feel free to ignore!)

smallpotato Sun 29-May-11 23:09:16

I remember going to the cinema with my first boyfriend with a group of friends when I was 12. To watch Wayne's World grin. He didn't even hold my hand <sobs> . Then the next week at school he dumped me. Not even to my face, he told my best friend <double sob>

Let her go, it's a rite of passage and she will have a fun giggly time (said as the mum of 2 preshool girls so feel free to ignore!)

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