Advanced search

To think that everyone judges people, they must do! Surely I'm not alone.

(33 Posts)
mummyloveslucy Sat 28-May-11 21:49:53

I was at the zoo today with my 6 year old daughter and we stopped to have our picnic. This family came over and sat on another table, I could hear the mother shouting and swearing at the kids before I saw her. They had 4 children who were running about trying to either kick or pull a feather of a Pecock. Both parents were smoking, wearing leasure gear and just looked angry. Even when the mum was saying something nice it was still in a deep angry tone. She actually made my DD jump several times as she screamed at her children to sit down or something.
Now I'm not saying I'm a perfect parent or anything, I do find it very hard indead and I only have one, although she does have SEN's. But what a disfunctional family! They were truly awful! I don't think that anyone who met them could possibly think otherwise.
It got me thinking about judging people and I know that on MN people are very against judging but I don't think you can help it, I know I can't. AIBU to think that everyone must do it, or am I just a total judgy bitch? wink

I just know someone will say they judge me by my spelling, so I thought I'd get there fist. grin

Rannaldini Sat 28-May-11 21:51:33

Peacocks are without merit

NotYourPrincess Sat 28-May-11 21:52:39

<holds breath, waits for the onslaught>

millie30 Sat 28-May-11 21:54:09

But they obviously care enough about their children to have taken them for a nice day out and picnic, so they can't be all bad.

mummyloveslucy Sat 28-May-11 21:54:22

Me too. grin

Lavitabellissima Sat 28-May-11 21:55:02

"I know that on MN people are very against judging" grin

Really? isn't MN called Judgypantsnet bear

mummyloveslucy Sat 28-May-11 21:55:47

That is true. smile

lesley33 Sat 28-May-11 21:56:31

Of course everyone judges,but some do more quickly than others.

Although I am always surprised at people saying a poster shouldn't judge, when they are posting in AIBU? AIBU invites people to judge.

lesley33 Sat 28-May-11 21:57:21

And sometimes it is right to judge. Would people really not judge if they saw a young child being whacked angrily by a parent?

AgentZigzag Sat 28-May-11 21:59:25

Of course everyone judges, but what's important is the framework you do your judging with.

MN can show you viewpoints you'd not thought of before, so instead of a knee jerk judgement of the parent of what I used to think was a DC who was far too old to be in a pushchair, I'd now think of the reasons why they might be in it.

Breathe princess Breathe! You're turning blue grin

MonstaMunch Sat 28-May-11 22:01:14

yes i judge, i love it

from the chavvy mum who needs the mobile phone surgically removed from her ear so she can light her fag to the daft ineffectual "dont do that arabella, mummy gets upset" mother in Waitrose, with her awful spoilt brats

love it

MadamDeathstare Sat 28-May-11 22:02:15

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

mummyloveslucy Sat 28-May-11 22:03:33

That is true, I don't feel so badly about judging now. I like to think of myself as a nice person but I do judge all the time. I can't help myself! blush

I suppose it made me a bit cross that they came over swearing and smoking and made my dd jump. I'm far too much of a coward to say anything and I know if we moved, my dd would blurt out "why are we going" in a nice loud voice, then I'd feel blush

Sqee Sat 28-May-11 22:04:48

I JUDGE YOU ALL! <points finger dramatically turning in a circle>

ilovesooty Sat 28-May-11 22:06:13

MadamDeathstare I think that's the most profound post I've ever seen.


AgentZigzag Sat 28-May-11 22:07:52

Yes, definately agree with compassion MadamD.

It's just not easy to summon any up when you're in a right arse and stamping round Tesco grin

Sqee Sat 28-May-11 22:09:42

I should be judged. Harshly.

I found a cornflake in my cleavage earlier......and ate it. blush

AgentZigzag Sat 28-May-11 22:09:49

<<takes a huge swig from g n t before hiding it behind back from Sqee>>

mummyloveslucy Sat 28-May-11 22:09:53

In a way I felt sorry for the mum and the children. The mum was so stressed she couldn't relax and enjoy her day, and it couldn't be a happy home life for the children either.

ShellyBoobs Sat 28-May-11 22:10:43

I don't think YABU.

It's more of an observation you've made than a judgement IMO.

Hope your DD had a lovely day. smile

NotYourPrincess Sat 28-May-11 22:12:11

<lets out breath in big 'whoosh'>

AIBU has been quite calm this evening, I was sure this was going to crash and burn.

Obviously, I mis-judged...

Sqee Sat 28-May-11 22:13:17

<<gasps at Agent and phones SS>>

mummyloveslucy Sat 28-May-11 22:13:32

Sqee- That's so funny, I won't judge you for that. I do things like that. Maybe I'm in no position to judge others. grin

pinkyredrose Sat 28-May-11 22:13:36

pull those judgy pants up high, you'll need them!

Sqee Sat 28-May-11 22:15:32

Hrmm I wouldn't speak too soon. I haven't had cornflakes since Wednesday. <boak>

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, watch threads, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now »

Already registered? Log in with: