Just had a terrible two weeks, what with the death of a family member together with constant bickering from various members of the family over the 'arrangements' Why do these things always bring arguments?
I'd rather not go into the details of the bickering exactly, but I wanted to let you all know this because it was the reason behind the following conversation:
I have spoken to my DP & parents and told them exactly what I'd like to happen when I pass on - I have no will at this stage (this is next on my agenda tbh) but feel that if everyone knows my wishes then it minimises any arguing when the time finally comes.
So, as we were discussing this I asked my parents if they had made wills to which they replied "No, why would we have a will - we have nothing to leave to anyone :) " Which is far enough IMO but I told them that I'd like to know what their 'wishes' were for funeral arrangements, after a lengthy conversation we agreed that they would write an 'In the event of my death' letter and seal it in an envelope leaving it with the rest of the important paperwork.
I mentioned this to a friend who was horrified that I'd had this conversation with my parents - she said it was like wishing their lives away!
Would you rather discuss these things? Or just leave it to be dealt with when the time comes?
As this thread is 'skirting' around death I'm sorry if it is not to your taste, it is not my intention to offend anyone. My friend has kind of made me feel guilty and I'd like to get different points of view.
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to expect my close family to have an 'In the event of my death' plan?
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MeRightYouWrongMeBigYouSmall · 28/05/2011 19:22
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