Because my DH just creates mess constantly and won't do anything to tidy or clean the house?
I have always been quite houseproud and kept on top of housework and washing/ironing. DH has always been very messy and hasn't pulled his weight in the house but it's getting worse and worse. The not doing housework I can just about put up with but it's the constant making mess and dirt that is annoying me.
He dumps things on any surface in the house that hasn't got something on it;windowsills, stairs, chairs, the sofa, worktops, kitchen table, beds, floors, ledges at the top of the bannister. Anywhere except put things away or cleaned up. Shoes are left everywhere, as are wet bath towels, dirty clothes, socks, wrappers, cans, hair when he's clippered his hair etc
We have three children and now that the youngest is a toddler and into everything it is getting harder and harder to keep everything clean and tidy, I have to literally clean all day and then it is all undone during the evening and next morning by DH. He has also recently got a puppy, despite the fact that we already have a dog, and of course the mess and extra hoovering that a puppy means is all left to me.
There are so many household chores that he refuses point blank to do; he won't hoover, iron, cook, put washing away, do food shopping (online or in store), put food shopping away, clean bathrooms or change bedding. He will stand in the wash basket to cram washing down to get the lid on rather than put a wash on. He leaves glasses of water by his side of the bed, at the moment there are 6 there.
I make our house sound awful, which it isn't, as I spend a lot of time on housework but it needs constant effort to keep it decent. Like I said, it's getting harder and harder because of all the shit he leaves lying around. If it was a case of basic housework then it would be fine and I wouldn't have too much of an issue about doing it all. I spent ages yesterday sorting out paper work he'd left on our kitchen table, and cleaning the table. it was totally empty. Now again it has so much stuff piled up on it you can barely see the table, he has put a top over one of the chairs and 2 pairs of shoes under it. He is also the same in the car, leaving rubbish and muck in there all the time.
I know I am being a whinge, but it's really annoying me and I feel like just "giving up" on making the house look nice and just doing the bare minimum. There doesn't seem to be any point. If he did, say, all the cooking, or all the ironing or just something I could accept that he didn't do the other things. Just to add, he works full time and I work part time. I currently do everything in the house. The only thing he ever does is occasionally unload the dishwasher.
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to just give up on keeping the house clean and tidy?
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CallMeBubblesEverybodyDoes · 28/05/2011 12:15
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