I have always had faith that DH will do the right thing, but I'm starting to worry about his decisions now we have child number 2 on the way...
He has been studying at college and planned to go self employed, I have always supported him in this. However, he has just announced that in 2 weeks time he will be going part time in his usual job to spend time promoting himslef as an electrician - he won't even be qualified until he passes his exams in July!
He has the mortgage and some other bills coming out of his account, and assures me that his wage from his job will cover these and anything he earns on top from being self employed will be his 'spends'. He knows nothing about the tax system or the implications of being self employed, and has already hinted he will not be declaring all the work he does. He also has a lot of debt and zero savings.
He is basing this whole idea on his drinking buddies who are self employed, his argument is if they can do it why can't he? My counter argument is that they are all single and live at home with their mums...
I'm feeling very left out of what, as far as I am concerned, is a very serious decision about our finances. I'm on maternity leave and will be taking a two third wage cut on SMP and will only just be able to cover my share of the bills. I have been saving hard and paid off my debts to make having 2 chldren a bit financially easier. I'm also starting to worrry that when I go back to work, we won't be able to afford for me to do term time only as we discussed, planned and sorted out with work months ago.
Every time I try to discuss this with him he gets all defensive and pretty much refuses to talk about it any further. Any ideas on how I can approach this without triggering yet another argument? Sorry for the essay, but I'm starting to lose a lot of sleep over this.
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bunny1976 · 28/05/2011 09:53
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