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honeybee007 · 26/05/2011 19:51

....be pregnant for a bit to know how crap it can be?

I'm 32 (I think) weeks pregnant with second dc, this time round I'm not passing out as much (hooray!) but instead feel like my ribs are broken and like the baby is trying to escape through my belly button while stabbing me. Dp thinks this is all hilarious and mocks me when I can't roll over in bed,get up off sofa,get out of bed (spd which I didn't have last time)

He was so lovely when I was pregnant with dd but this time round it's like he's thinking 'ah she was fine last time and didn't actually die so I don't have to be as nice' is this usual? Aibu to wish he could physically feel my pain?

Must say my dp is over all very nice and is excellent with dd. I'm just mournful for the last pregnancy when he wouldn't let me carry shopping or hoover but this time there's no extra tlc :(

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SnuffleTurtle153 · 26/05/2011 19:53

He sounds like a tosser, why the hell would you being in discomfort amuse him?

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worraliberty · 26/05/2011 19:55

I don't think it would make any difference if man could have babies.

I think women are the worst when it comes to lacking sympathy...as often their pregnancies will have been either easier or harder.

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honeybee007 · 26/05/2011 20:02

He's really not a tosser, I think he mocks more to stop me becoming a blubbering wreck. It works to be fair I just get annoyed instead. I was just wondering if men are usually a bit less caring after the first pregnancy or if he's unusual in that respect.

Worral I agree often women are worse and it becomes a competition of 'well I had this or that' or a co petition of well I had no pain relief at all etc.

I guess I am u to expect him to know how it feels to have a baby kicking and prodding.feel bad for making him sound an arse he really isn't.

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springbokscantjump · 26/05/2011 21:16

Ah I know. DH was very sympathetic but you could almost feel him rolling his eyes when in the very late stages I would throw a bit of a paddy at not being able to get comfortable in bed. TBF it was a proper kicking legs, hitting the bed with fists a la two year old temper tantrum at times.

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horriblemotheragain · 26/05/2011 22:03

they are definitely less interested and less sympathetic after the first time. my DH wasn't even that interested in feeling kicks or watching the mad alien dance around in my tummy while I had a bath the second/third times. sigh.

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MoreBeta · 26/05/2011 22:18

honeybee007 - my DW had SPD second time round. Some 8 years later she still suffers.

Do not under any circumstances think this is 'just one of those things'. You must go to our GP and get help and you must tell your DP how much damage you could suffer if you are not careful.

Your DP is not a mind reader. He likely does not know what SPD is. I didn't and although I was not mocking DW I really wish I had known more and could have helped more.

If you haven't already do find herbietea on a thread as she is an expert on SPD. Keep well.

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Andrewofgg · 27/05/2011 17:12

Oh dear. Some people want next week's lottery numbers and they have more chance of getting their wish than you do!