My DS starts primary school in September. He has developed a close friendship with a boy who lives in our street- will call him John. They attend playgroup together (John goes every day, my DS goes twice a week). I am also friends with John?s parents. We often share the playgroup ?run? between us and they play at each other's houses a lot.
They generally get on really well. I know John comes out of his shell on the days that my DS attends preschool. They tend to be stuck together like glue when they are there.
I think in general they are good for each other but the negative side is that if one of them cannot sit with the other they sometimes get upset. Also although DS is the more confident of the two in new situations, once they settle in he tends to follow John?s lead and perhaps does not get the opportunity to do things his way, as he seems to want to be exactly like John. I have had chats to my DS about everyone being friends and that although John is his ?special? friend he may not always be able to sit with him etc..
I feel they would settle into school more easily if they were in the same class. I am tempted to contact the school somehow to request that they are put together (will double check that John?s parents agree). I accept that arranging classes must be a difficult task for teachers and I am quite prepared to be overridden by the teachers if they do not feel my request is reasonable or practical.
However, I am not sure if this is me being ridiculously PFB?! I know DS (and John) will be heartbroken if on their first day they are separated. I feel that I would be letting DS and John down if I don?t at least make the teachers aware if their close friendship. However, I realise there might be some benefit to separating them in terms of making new friends and developing as individuals.
So two AIBU really! Firstly, AIBU to think they would benefit from being together? Secondly AIBU to contact the school and ask that they consider placing them together (goodness knows how I will do this- by email maybe)?
Also an apology for the ?trivialness? of this post. It must seem ridiculous to experienced mums with DC at school. I am going to need to toughen up!!
AIBU?
AIBU ask school to place DS with his best friend when they start in Sept? (PFB alert)
Stickwithit · 11/05/2011 12:19
YANBU to want to, but I think YWBU if you did. Neither of them are likely to extend their friendship groups if they rely on each other too much. DD started at a new school this year (She is 10 tomorrow) and made friends quickly.
In her last school she was very upset to be split up from her BFF 
. She still saw BFF at break and lunch times.
Pressed before I´d finished
That said, over here, (Germany), we could request three friends we would like in the same class.
Generally they are put into a class according to this (although I doubt it´s priority), and where they live as most children walk to school.
Here in NI, when your child starts primary school, you are asked if the child went to nursery school with anyone else starting. If you think this is bad, just wait until they start falling out with their friends 
ruck that should quite obviously be!
Oh god, touch-typing too fast again
chicletteeth A big ruck in the playground? Or WTF did you go to school?
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