To Have Doubts About "Bumsex Plus"

(133 Posts)
milliemae Fri 25-Mar-11 21:28:06

Good Friday night topic. A while ago, DH pester-powered me into bumsex. Not quite the real thing, but bumsex is better than no sex so we use it for a few days a month....

Now DH wants to try "Bumsex Plus": wants me to strap on a dildo & bumsex him!!!???!!! On the one hand, revenge would be sweet: it's great when he's gentle, but sometimes he gets carried away & I wouldn't mind him knowing what it's like!

On the other hand, it seems a bit pervvy to me, even though he says he can't bear the thought of a man doing it to him; says he wants to see what it's like for me - an experiment in empathy or whatever.

Anyone come across this before? Go for it or tell him to go f*ck himself?

Go for it - what's good for the gander is good for the goose!

allsquareknickersnofurcoat Fri 25-Mar-11 21:29:39

Go for it wink

amberleaf Fri 25-Mar-11 21:30:04

Only do it you feel happy to.

Me id be on him like a jackhammer grin

Happymm Fri 25-Mar-11 21:30:17

Hmmm! Not sure how I'd feel with that, but am not the most dominant of people. blush Love a Friday night bum sex thread though

strandedpolarbear Fri 25-Mar-11 21:31:47

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thenightsky Fri 25-Mar-11 21:31:48

<<joins in purely coz it's Friday night>>

Nothing to add but go for it, really.

troisgarcons Fri 25-Mar-11 21:36:59

*strandedpolarbear Fri 25-Mar-11 21:31:47
Do it, I'm sure DP is on the verge of asking me, he always wants my finger up his bottom! He pester powered me into twice (I was very drunk both times) and I have to say it is better than normal sex... But I couldn't walk the day after... Or poo for 3 days...

Clearly a Friday night - why cant YOU shit if its YOUR finger up HIS arse?

thenightsky Fri 25-Mar-11 21:37:55

I was wondering that too... perhaps it's psychological.

Think maybe he pestered her into bumsex, not sticking her finger up his bum!

lubeybooby Fri 25-Mar-11 21:40:00

Oh what the hell....Go for it. I've done it... I got a 'beginners one' It's 1) knackering and 2) difficult to get angles right but practise makes perfect....

Happymm Fri 25-Mar-11 21:40:13

Think polar bear meant he'd bum sexes her!

MeRightYouWrongMeBigYouSmall Fri 25-Mar-11 21:41:19

strap on sally chased me up the alley - we feared for our behinds!!

OP - give him ten of your finest grin

troisgarcons Fri 25-Mar-11 21:41:48

Mind you - you'd need arms like an orangutang though

thenightsky Fri 25-Mar-11 21:42:07

lubeybooby - really knackering? Wow?

<<new respect for blokes>>

southeastastra Fri 25-Mar-11 21:44:08

there will be loads of pensioners with flacid arseholes in the future

Men liking their female DPs to do them up the bum does not make them gay. It's physically enjoyable for men. Fancying other men is what makes men gay.
Funnily enough in purely physical terms, getting done up the bum is usually much more enjoyable for men than it is for women (we don't have prostate glands).

Strap-on hints:
Use lube
Do not use anything that is not firmly attached to a wide base. Or it will be your turn (as a couple) to give the A&E staff a good laugh and a story for the Xmas party.

strandedpolarbear Fri 25-Mar-11 21:46:11

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varyingdegreesofdeafness Fri 25-Mar-11 21:47:10

I'd love dh to try bumsex with me, but he looked mortified then sort of giggle really nervously then looked petrified. I really want to try it, i might shiek in horror when he does but at least i've tried it!

It can't get any saggier than my poor old fanjo!

thenightsky Fri 25-Mar-11 21:47:53

SEA grin

MotherMucca Fri 25-Mar-11 21:47:56

Do it! A man I was seeing kept hinting at bumsex. I said I would allow him, provided I could stick a dildo up HIS arse.

It was never mentioned again.

But if your man is keen, go forth and bumsex plus, says I.

varyingdegreesofdeafness Fri 25-Mar-11 21:47:59

Shriek? in horror, not shiek. Or Sheik. That would be strange.

MeRightYouWrongMeBigYouSmall Fri 25-Mar-11 21:49:08

DH always fingered my arse, i tried doing same to him once and he said No...i thought all men loved arse action on the sly grin

MotherMucca Fri 25-Mar-11 21:50:14

That should read that he wanted to bumsex my poor bum. I am just not keen. But that is a (w)hole other thread.

johnworf Fri 25-Mar-11 21:50:39

Def give him a taste of what you've had. Make sure he's bandy when you've done with him.

mwahahahahaha wink

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