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Is this PFB of me?

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strawberrycake Sun 16-Jan-11 21:35:16

(he's not even pfb, just the pampered baby of the lot)

Nursery feed my ds in a bouncy chair and I'm thinking of having words with them about it. I feel it's not great for development and limits him to purees for the sake of being a bit tidier/ easier to restrain him from wiping food everywhere. I think part the reason is he's so tiny (average 3 month old size-ish) he's treated like a tiny baby still. He's 8 months and has been sitting unsupported for 2 months and can self-feed at least part of his meals, I'm relaxed about spoon-feeding though as we do both. Also surely it makes choking more likely? No other babies are fed in one, I think as I said he's seen as much younger (he's not the youngest but the smallest by a massive amount). Also he's got food allergies, maybe they're keeping him from others' mess but I'd rather he socialised.

So am I being pfb not wanting ds reclined to eat, do most people at this age. Is it one of those things that just doesn't matter?

compo Sun 16-Jan-11 21:36:36

I think it's fine to ask them to put him in a highchair
they won't mind

rubyslippers Sun 16-Jan-11 21:37:01


He needs to sit in a highchair
It does matter - he shouldn't eat reclining

onimolap Sun 16-Jan-11 21:37:12

I wouldn't want my DCs fed in a lean back chair. If the nursery don't want him sitting alone, they should put him in a proper high chair.

battherat Sun 16-Jan-11 21:38:22

YANBU. They won't mind putting him in a highchair at all.

A1980 Sun 16-Jan-11 21:39:47

it's probably the food allergies thing more than anything else, especailly If they feed all the younger babies in a highchair the

How would react if he was put with the other babies to eat and was more social and was given something he was allergic too.

I don't know about the recline to eat point but it can't be very comfortable. Can you ask them if it's the allergies thing? If it is perhaps take in a more upright chair they can use, a bumbo or something?

Violethill Sun 16-Jan-11 21:40:15

No I don't think you're being PFB at all. You sound refreshingly un precious about it actually - you're simply aware that your ds is capable of sitting up and eating as an 8 month old does, and you feel its better all round that his nursery acknowledge this.

One of mine was prem, and people do have a tendency to treat them as much younger, which is understandable, but its worth pointing out to them. They are perhaps a bit more protective towards him, and a bit scared to treat him like the other 8 month olds?

Shamechanger Sun 16-Jan-11 21:40:28

YADNBU. Mine ate in reclining chair at 6 mths as couldn't sit unsupported. By 8 months they could and ate in high chair. They were big floppy not very stable babies too. Do 8 month olds even spend time in bouncy chair when not eating? I thought they were for under 6 months?

strawberrycake Sun 16-Jan-11 21:45:56

No highchairs, just little seats/ a bumbo which he can use fine. He's always sat up to eat with me, I didn't wean him until he could sit unaided (just seemed logical to me, no big reason).

I feel like I'm pointing out all the time he's NOT a tiny baby despite looking like one. Last week I walked in and he was sitting surrounded with cushions, which he kept lobbing at other babies! I asked what was with the cushion mountain and they said 'oh but he's so little'. He's in a cot, not sleeping on a mat like the others (bought one especially for him, I guess this is fair enough as he does get squashed by bigger ones!). He keeps being given water in a bottle, not his sippy cup. He's the nursery pet and they all rock him and carry him constantly, pampered pest! They are lovely lovely people but just can't seem to grasp he's the same age, or older, than others that dwarf him.

xfirsttimemummyx Sun 16-Jan-11 21:46:48

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YankNCock Sun 16-Jan-11 21:49:49

Not PFB of you at all, you just want him to be treated like any other 8 month old! If he sits up unaided and can self feed, I'd be really annoyed by them limiting him to purees and feeding in a reclining chair.

But then I did march into our nursery with the BLW book when DS first went at 8 months, explained it all to them, and left book for reference. <<possibly PFB>> grin

strawberrycake Sun 16-Jan-11 21:50:56

He does love chilling in bouncy chairs, even at home, so fair enough. They are still nice and big for him and he gets in and out safely himself if supervised and doesn't mind being strapped in if need be. He likes to bounce them or nap in them.

He has had reactions at nursery, from shared toys. I've made it clear that I won't go mental (and I haven't) as even if they are super-careful if he is allowed to socialise he's at risk of one.

I think they are over-protective, I just want him to be able to join in and develop as normal. If anything he's developmentally ahead as it's so easy to move and support his tiny frame. He can pull to a stand already (and fall over..)

strawberrycake Sun 16-Jan-11 21:52:27

At home I feed him sitting on a mat on the floor most the time blush or in a bumbo (purely to restrain, not support.

PFB = precious first born.

SmethwickBelle Sun 16-Jan-11 21:52:50

My son at 8 months would be craning forward (and then boinging backwards) to sit up in one of those chairs so I'd have words too if he was being fed in them.

You are not being unreasonable.

A1980 Sun 16-Jan-11 21:54:08

Oh he sounds so cute! I'd probably wan't to protect him a little if he was so tiny!

strawberrycake Sun 16-Jan-11 22:05:12

smeth, he likes to ride on them like a horse on his knees holding the top bar! (obviously very closely supervised). The daft bit is that he sits up straight in it to chew and swallow then leans back for the spoon (watched him there)

MumNWLondon Sun 16-Jan-11 22:17:44

I think ok to feed in bouncy chairs up to around 7 months, after than should be in highchair so can do some self feeding.

I haven't done BLW but DS2 is 9 months and I always encourage him to eat some of his food himself from the tray.

I think though that the allergies are very hard in nursery feeding times. Stay and watch a meal and you'll see how hard it is. You need to discuss a way to keep him safe, yet sit in highchair. Maybe he can be fed first and then nibble on something from his tray while the others eat.

blueshoes Sun 16-Jan-11 22:17:44

You say he has food allergies. What sort of allergies and how bad is his reaction?

MissMarjoribanks Sun 16-Jan-11 22:20:24

YANBU. My DS was still fed in his bouncy chair at coming up to 8mo, but he was prem and couldn't sit unaided. I got a deserved rollicking on here for giving him finger foods in it. As soon as he was remotely comfortable in the highchair he went in it.

I told my DS' nursery he prefers to feed himself and they just let him get on with it, afaik.

strawberrycake Sun 16-Jan-11 22:25:12

blueshoes- Allergies don't cause shock. Result in eczema getting worse for a few days, runny belly and a flushed/ spotty face until piriton. Long-term exposure results in reflux and weight loss has he can't digest milk. Obviously I want to avoid them but not a medical emergency. A bumbo would restrain him to one spot (and he'll probably fit in one for a long time yet)

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