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That DH is being unreasonable

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Chucklecheeks Wed 12-Jan-11 20:52:27

We have a nearly 4 year old DD and a 6 week DS who is suffering from colic most evenings and extremely painful reflux.
He plays football every wednesday, he was planning on going tonight which i thought was a bit unreasonable as it would mean i would not get a break from DS at all and would be with him crying non stop for over three hours.
Our boiler broke today and we are waiting in fro a repair man as we are a priority due to DS. Am i unreasonable to have expected him to think that this was too much for me to deal with on my own. i could have dealt with it, but should i have had too?

cep Wed 12-Jan-11 20:57:35

Does he give you time normally during the rest of the week?? I think personally as your boiler broke today that you anbu. I assume that normally you don't have a problem his playing footie? However, i don't think men think of things like that i know my dh doesn't.

I hope your boiler gets sorted soon.

Pancakeflipper Wed 12-Jan-11 20:58:35

You need a break.
In happier circumstances you'd not bat an eyelid but having a baby who has colic and reflux is such hard work - and no-one knows how it drags you down until you have that baby...

Inform your DH that on Saturday afternoon he has the children and you go into town and have a coffee and pastry and browse. You need to escape and refresh yourself.

The colic and reflux will go. It's not forever...... Hold onto that thought.

AgentZigzag Wed 12-Jan-11 20:59:15

Did you tell him you need help?

You're BU if you expected him to be psychic grin

tigitigi Wed 12-Jan-11 20:59:48

I really feel for you - both mine had bad colic and reflux, DS was on gaviscon until he was quite old.

I found dentinox far more effective than infacol and it can be squirted straight into the bottle (or their mouth if you are BF).

Hope the boiler man comes soon. As for your DH you are tired and taking things out of perspective. He no doubt has been working hard and values his break from the work that he has to do. Agree that you get a similar amount of time off one evening to go to the gym or whatever you fancy doing (sleep!).

CupcakesHay Wed 12-Jan-11 21:05:06

Just speak to him - maybe he doesn't realise how much pressure you're under? But speak to him rather than letting it brew.... smile

compo Wed 12-Jan-11 21:19:53

If at all possible I'd let him carry on with his footie once a week
on the proviso that you Get a lie in and a couple of hours to yourself at the weekend
I know of several couples who have fallen apart becauce once children came all hobbies were given up sad exercise is good for us after all

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