Is it just me or do others feel this way? Picked up dd (4) from nursery who moaned and complained all the way home she didn't want to go because they were about to do painting, picked up ds (8) form school who barely spoke and when he did it was sarky responses to my chirpy 'so how was your day?' type questions. Cooked a nice meal which on sitting down to the table son said it looked like poo (!) and dd refused to eat it. (they had wolfed exact same meal down last week). I work 3 days a week and look forward to seeing the kids but feeling really low this evening now! AIBU to expect a little bit more effort from them or am I living in cloud cuckoo land?! Thought this was what you get when they are surly teens...
When I was a child, I was so happy to get out of school at 3:30pm. Just wanted to get home, play with toys, watch tv, etc.
Every day... EVERY DAY my mum says "what did you do today" without fail when she picked me up. The same question day after day after day, it annoyed me, just wanted to forget about school. I used to say "nothing" or just mention one thing. But she made a real issue: "what do you mean nothing, is that all, what else, I want to hear ALL about it"
Fuck. Off. Is what I wanted to say.
I haven't had children yet so my views are probably not the same as a mum's. But this is how I felt from a child's perspective. It was no walk in the park being at school. Once I was out, I was out and I wanted to leave it behind, and it was tiring. It's frustrating for you as you're happy to see them but them seem a little grouchy but erhaps just let him alone after school if he's like that. I'd have thrown dd's food in the bin and given her nothing else if she'd said that though.
School's harder than you think. How does an adult feel after a day at work, particularly a hard one. It's the same for a child after a long day at school. They're not necessarily up for chirpy discussions and want to chill perhaps. I did anyway!
A1980 - that is a really interesting point. It was DS's first day at nursery today and I gave him that very same grilling. It's too new for him to be bored of that conversation but I understand how it can be wearing.
OP - yes it is knackering and thankless at times. I get sick of hearing the sound of my own voice nagging the same things day after day. When DS says something funny, or sometimes says that he loves me, that's my thank you. Perhaps when he's older I'll feel more like you do.
Agree with A1980 that they need some chill out time, although I'm only just realising this with my dd who's 8. Now I let her wind down with some computer time and then she's more likely to do homework and chat without arguments!
I can see that one. I usually watch dd's reactions and see how she responds (if she has 'just shut up' on her face, I don't push it... just try and talk later) but 'tell me something funny that happened today' sometimes works...
I would however be pissed off if my kids were rude (sarky comments, saying dinner looked like poo). I don't think they are too young to know that if they speak to you like that it makes you feel sad/hurt and it is not respectful or acceptable.