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Why is AIBU the most frequented thread on mumsnet

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noseybugger Wed 12-Jan-11 17:10:35

Whenever I read it I feel negative and vow never to come back on AIBU.

I vow to rise aove the negative bitter comments telling myself "I am better than that" and "it is worse than school yard bullying at times".

BUT I just cannot help myself.

Most threads on here are not asking for advice but make statements much like this one.

If everyone minded their own business and didn't worry about who claimed benefit, etc. Some of these threads would not kick off like they do.

The fact that it is the busiest thread on mumsnet surely says something though1!

corns Wed 12-Jan-11 17:12:08

so what benefits do you claim?

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo Wed 12-Jan-11 17:12:23

because AIBU is a platform for everyone to express their opinion whereas other topics require a bit more tact liek relationships etc.

nickelbabysnatcher Wed 12-Jan-11 17:13:03

cos it's fun grin

LeQueen Wed 12-Jan-11 17:14:35

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

melezka Wed 12-Jan-11 17:22:32

I agree that I don't like the threads that are actually IANBU rather than anything else.

But what I do like about AIBU is that in RL we tend to surround ourselves either with people we tend to share most of our viewpoints with, and who generally don't think we are BU anyway, or with people whose relationship with us (or dislike of conflict) means that they never disagree with you. I have found AIBU confrontational - but sometimes I've learned stuff and been helped to pull my neck in when I needed to.

(mostly lurk though)

AntonDuBurk Wed 12-Jan-11 17:27:28

I think it's partly self perpetuating too.

Many people (like me) seem to navigate MN via Active Convos. AIBU is in active convos a lot so you get "I know I'm not AIBU but wanted people to see this". AIBU to wonder where I can buy a nice winter coat etc...

ragged Wed 12-Jan-11 17:28:24

Coz we all lurve a good barney.
Knit knit knit ....

Tee2072 Wed 12-Jan-11 17:29:01

Pendant alert!

It's not a thread. It's a topic. A topic has threads within it.

And I think it brilliant.

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo Wed 12-Jan-11 17:31:49

pendant alert tee? grin

Tee2072 Wed 12-Jan-11 17:37:21

Oh FFS. I am really tired!

::hangs head in shame::

narkypuffin Wed 12-Jan-11 17:39:08

As the guidelines say, 'it is not a fight club'.

But if it was, we wouldn't talk about it would we.

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo Wed 12-Jan-11 17:41:54

i so love it when people do that!!

me? no I'd never make a mistake like that, I'm perfect in every way!


Lamorna Wed 12-Jan-11 17:44:50

Simple answer, it is just about the first one you get to when you go for 'last15mins' and there is generally enough on there to never progress lower!

TrillianAstra Wed 12-Jan-11 17:45:49

It's not a thread, it's a collection of threads: a topic or area.

It's active because people love to give their opinion, and AIBU is an opportunity to give your opinion without needing any expertise or knowledge (which you would need in order to give your opinion in Health, for example)

YABU, because you haven't asked an AIBU question.

LeQueen Wed 12-Jan-11 17:47:30

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

narkypuffin Wed 12-Jan-11 17:50:25

I've never managed to find Brad Pitt all sweaty with a rubber glove on though sad

CheesyRockChick Wed 12-Jan-11 17:51:36

It gives me hours of entertainment! grin

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo Wed 12-Jan-11 17:59:55

me either narky. i think he is in disguise.

MardyBra Wed 12-Jan-11 18:10:27

YABU because you started THIS thread in AIBU!

ManicMother7777 Wed 12-Jan-11 20:48:30

It's better than the telly.

togarama Wed 12-Jan-11 21:47:05

Agree with Melezka.

Also, there's not many sites out there where you can post in a direct, honest and argumentative way without either being banned or deluged with obscene abuse from other members (yeah, I know the latter does happen occasionally here but not actually that often). I appreciate the freedom of expression allowed on MN and on AIBU in particular.

There's several other parenting sites out there where most of the posts are woolly nonsense and everyone pounces on you and calls you insensitive etc.. if you point out that something is incorrect or illogical.

Lots of non-parenting sites are similar. I used to be a member of a site that was so over-moderated that you weren't allowed to comment on any medical problem unless you were a doctor and had provided the site admins with your credentials! I once had my hand slapped for just posting my personal experience of various forms of contraception in the "women's issues" section... You also weren't allowed to post details of any serious issues around e.g. domestic violence, alcoholism and addiction, abuse, crime, discrimination etc.. Loads of threads were locked and removed with solemn warnings from mods and more and more people vanished. Over the years it just got more and more absurd. I got sick of being treated like an imbecile eventually and haven't been back for years.

There's a bit more reality, useful information and refreshingly different perspectives on here.

Arion Wed 12-Jan-11 22:02:19

Because it's great! The range of topics, the bun fights, the OMG I can't believe someone just posted that, makes me appreciate DH more, and the help, concern and support that is shown - just look at the threads trying to help out the lady in Wales who needs to get formula.

SantosLHalper Wed 12-Jan-11 22:24:55

Because it makes me angry and amused in equal measure!

sunnydelight Wed 12-Jan-11 22:47:02

Because it's fun, and when people really are in need they usually get the help they need regardless of where they post.

I do love the threads where people post in AIBU looking for sympathy when they have clearly done something daft, then go all huffy when people don't agree with them. It's quite cathartic to be able to say "oh, get a grip" when in RL you probably think it half a dozen times a day but don't want to offend by saying it out loud.

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