DP is back at work now and I'd originally thought I could manage the night feeds alone so that he could get a good rest IF he did the 1am feed - giving me 2 hours sleep before the next. However he has taken to bringing the baby to me at 1.30am complaining that he has to get up and baby wont settle without me. We used to go to bed after 1am in the old days anyway! Ok, says i. Perhaps he could do the 11pm feed while I rest then? Except again, the baby 'wont' settle without me, and I end up preparing it anyway (baby is mix feed so theres just one bottle at night which i thought DP might actually enjoy giving him after a day away)
is any of what i've said unreasonable? Because last night, as it was friday night and he doesnt work weekends, my MUM got up to do the 1am feed because he'd fallen asleep/left baby crying/couldnt settle him/couldnt wind him etc. (Staying with mum this week because of building work, i was in brothers room down the corridor and heard none of this)
is he shirking or am i expecting too much? How do you guys share it out with a working partner?
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Mammie81 · 08/01/2011 11:15
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