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To think that families would employ a male nanny?

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midori1999 Thu 06-Jan-11 19:38:42

DS1 wants to work with children in some way or other. One of the thing she has considered is working in a nursery and I suggested he look into nannying too maybe. (he is nearly 15, so it's a while until he has to decide properly yet)

DH was in the room and immediately said he thought most people might think a male nanny was a bit weird and not want to employ . I disagree.

Who is BU?

arentfanny Thu 06-Jan-11 19:39:55

If I had the money to employ a nanny/au pair then would comsider a male one over a female one.

MoonUnitAlpha Thu 06-Jan-11 19:40:05

I have known a couple of male nannies - there are nanny agencies who deal exclusively in "mannies" so there must be quite a market for them.

mutznutz Thu 06-Jan-11 19:41:47

"Mannies"?? FFS I just spat my coffee out grin

Eglu Thu 06-Jan-11 19:42:25

Of course they would. Nannynick on here is a great example.

scurryfunge Thu 06-Jan-11 19:45:42

I have employed male au pairs in the past. Not quite a nanny but the demand is still there.

Memoo Thu 06-Jan-11 19:47:06

I would, especially being the mother of a DS

NorbertDentressangle Thu 06-Jan-11 19:50:21

I read an article about male nannies once. IIRC the women interviewed had often opted for a male nanny to have a positive male role model for the children (especially sons) if the fathers were absent.

They raved about how active and involved the 'mannies' were, how the children loved them- all very positive (but only the experiences of a few families obviously).

IME males in childcare my DC have experienced have always been very popular.

There was a young 16/17 year old lad on placement at DS's nursery years ago and the children thought he was great. At DD's pre-school there was 50+ supervisor/worker who DD didn't stop talking about. He was extremely popular with the children.

So, yes, your DH is being unreasonable.

OldAndUngraceful Thu 06-Jan-11 19:50:21

There's definitely a market for male nannies.

For example, some single mums worry about their sons lacking a relationship with positive role models, so they might specifically look for a qualified male nanny who can somewhat fulfill that role, at least to some extent.

Some children may also benefit from doing more outdoorsy, sporty type activities which a male nanny might be more inclined to do ('might', I know some female nannies are sporty outdoorsy types too).

Some married mums might feel uneasy about hiring female help because they'd feel insecure...

So I wouldn't say your dh is being U, he probably just doesn't realise that there's a market out there for male nannies.

AuntiePickleBottom Thu 06-Jan-11 19:50:22

i wouldn't even bat an eye lid about a male nursery worker.

i wish there was more men out there willing to do this.

my dd starts playgroup in september and there is a male worker there

GoldFrakkincenseAndMyrrh Thu 06-Jan-11 19:56:17

DH is definitely unreasonable.

Male nannies can earn an absolute packet if they go overseas as well! with anyone wanting to get into nannying at the moment a qualification in childcare is essential, at least the new Diploma for the Children's workforce, and I would strongly urge him to consider a foundation degree in Early Years or a degree in education with the possibility of taking the shortened pathway to EYFS. Discrimination shouldn't exist but it does and qualifications go a long way towards making someone a more attractive candidate and diminishing the importance of their gender.

He should start building experience now with babysitting and holiday jobs working in a domestic setting with children if he's serious about that as experience counts for a lot.

Sports coaching qualifications make male nannies stand out too.

Try finding nannynick and messaging him.

plupervert Thu 06-Jan-11 20:10:09

I was very pleased S's nursery had a male carer, as I considered it very progressive.

A former boss also worked in a nursery at one point, before switching profession, and he is a lovely father. I didn't just like him for this, but it seemed that he was much less hung up on his ego than some of the twats around us, and I respected him much more!

Why should boys/men be discriminated against for having caring instincts, and be forced to repress those? I love the fact that my DS has been kissing the sore spot on my finger. He is a sweet boy, and I hope he will be a sweet man, too.

spikeycow Thu 06-Jan-11 20:18:03

Yeah I wouldn't care. I'd want a nanny who genuinely loved children, male or female

southeastastra Thu 06-Jan-11 20:19:19

would also look at other options, think once children reach 5 the male influences can be lacking quite a bit

he could look at youth work/afterschool/playschemes etc

midori1999 Thu 06-Jan-11 20:19:55

Thankyou for the replies. I am not sure what the career path for someone wishing to be a nanny would be, but he has also expressed a possible interest in teaching, so I will advise him to speak to someone relevant at school/arrange to go in with him to do so so he can be clearer about what he wants to do and know how to achieve it. He is very intelligent but hasn't been overly motivated at school recently so I am also hoping more direction might motivate him more.

He is a very caring and thoughtful boy. He always helps out with his younger siblings (the youngest has Downs Syndrome) and often babysits a neighbours children who can be rather difficult (even their nursery struggle with them) but DS seems to have a knack with them and they are never any trouble for him.

I think working with children is something he'll really enjoy and would be good at.

schoolsecretary Thu 06-Jan-11 21:34:34

If he wants to see whether teaching is his thing then I suggest a visit to his old primary school and speak to some of the staff there. We have loads of ex pupils come back for work experience to see if teaching is for them, if primary has a nursery even better, ask to do the session there. Men in primary education are like gold dust.

plupervert Thu 06-Jan-11 22:04:38

There was a thread a while ago, about the career progression issues for nannies, which might give you and your DS some food for thought, here. I hope it is a helpful starting point.

Best wishes.

tablefor3 Thu 06-Jan-11 22:15:36

Just another chiming in to say that DD1's key worker is a bloke and she luuurrvvess him! (We like him too.)

Laquitar Thu 06-Jan-11 22:46:57

OP, there is a regular poster on cm/nannies section who is a male nanny and gives good advice on childcare issues. Many of us would love to employ him.
His nickname is nannynick and perhaps you/your son could ask him about his experiences and opinion on this.

(i hope Nannynick doesn't mind me doing this)

BuzzLightBeer Thu 06-Jan-11 22:51:15

If I had a nanny, which I won't because I'm so poor devoted to my children, I'd totally have a man for my 3 boys, without a doubt.

MogTheForgetfulCat Thu 06-Jan-11 22:56:11

I would, definitely - partly because have 2 (and soon to be 3) DSs. DH is very much present, but I still think it's good for young children to be exposed to other male role models.

Drives me crackers that so much early years childcare and primary level teaching etc is so very female-dominated in this country. A male friend of mine used to be a nursery nurse, the kids just adored him. DS1 goes to after-school club once a week where his key worker is a man - DS1 loves him, and he is just fab. And his primary school has just recruited its second male teacher, yay! Otherwise, all the children at his school see is swathes of (admittedly lovely, talented and committed) female teachers, and a male headteacher - but of course. (Sorry, slight soapbox moment - but really think that ideally there should be a better gender mix among the teachers, and more female heads!)

ohnoshedittant Thu 06-Jan-11 22:58:49

There are jobs out there for male nannies def, although I think (unfortunately) sexism is still rife in childcare/nannying and he may encounter a bit of discrimination along the way. I hope he doesn't let that put him off though!

LovelyJudy Thu 06-Jan-11 23:01:52

you could encourage him to do american summer camp leader type activities in a couple of years. my step nephew (!?) coached football in the states and had a brilliant experience.

Lynli Thu 06-Jan-11 23:06:31

My nephew is a nursery nurse, he said he has never had any problems with disgrimination.

Lynli Thu 06-Jan-11 23:07:12


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