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to not want my brother to teach dd how to punch

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lampoon Wed 05-Jan-11 17:28:50

My brother looked after dd today and her highlight of the day according to her was that he taught how to punch. I think this is inappropriate as she's only 5 and is going to school tomorrow and I'm now worried she might try and show off her knew "skill". DH says I'm overreacting

tigitigi Wed 05-Jan-11 17:45:18

definitely overreacting!

charliesmommy Wed 05-Jan-11 17:46:12

YANBU and I would be furious too. I can see no reason or logic to child being able to punch, or encouraged to either.

tigitigi Wed 05-Jan-11 17:48:19


WhereTheWildThingsWere Wed 05-Jan-11 17:51:22

My ds was doing Karate by that age.

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo Wed 05-Jan-11 17:51:52

you are not overreacting. why would a 5 year old need to know how to punch? and if you do want them to be able to defend themselves try a martial arts or self defense class, where they will also be taught, discipline and self control, patience, focus and skill. rather than daftly punching people that are kneeling down offering their chin.

Ladyofthehousespeaking Wed 05-Jan-11 17:52:23

Well... He shouldn't really have done it but my grandad taught me how to headbutt when I was little and it reed up coming in handy just the once when I was a teenager. Obviously it's not good to hit anyone ever but I don't think it will do any harm tbh

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo Wed 05-Jan-11 17:55:49

it will do harm if as OP fears the child tries it on a child in school. how many of you wouldn't be angry if your child was punched in school by this child?

PrettyCandlesAndTinselToo Wed 05-Jan-11 17:55:55

As long as the 'how to' lesson is accompanied by a 'when to' lesson (and a 'when not to' lesson), then I dondt think it's a big deal. Besides, you can provide the 'when' lessons.

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo Wed 05-Jan-11 17:56:13

too many 'child's in that post. sorry.

charliesmommy Wed 05-Jan-11 17:56:32

Lets say she goes to school tomorrow and as the Op says, trys to demonstrate her new skill on one of her mates. The mother of that child is not going to be too pleased, and if the other child says "ooh I can punch harder than you".. its all going to end in tears.

Lets hope the brother also taught her how to block a punch too...

I dont think any kids should be taught to punch, but its even worse with a girl.

If my four year old grandaughter went around punching, she would be in deep trouble.

Karate isnt about punching.. lol!

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo Wed 05-Jan-11 17:58:25

why is it worse with a girl??? please dont tell me you are of the 'boys will be boys' and violence is therefore more acceptable mentality?

charliesmommy Wed 05-Jan-11 17:59:37

I should rephrase there, Karate involves punching, but in a controlled environment, and is not a fist fight. Hope that makes more sense.

I would have no problem with a child of any age doing judo or karate as it is a great sport and teaches a lot of control.

charliesmommy Wed 05-Jan-11 18:01:20

Boo, as I said it isnt acceptable, but boys do play fighting games, and it is in their nature to pit physical strength against each other.. it is not the same for females.

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo Wed 05-Jan-11 18:05:27

so you are of the boys will be boys' and violence is more acceptable mentality then?

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo Wed 05-Jan-11 18:06:35

look if it isn't acceptable it isn't acceptable, and that should be standard across the genders. you simply cannot say it is more acceptable for your son to hit your daughter thn it is for your daughter to hit your son.

charliesmommy Wed 05-Jan-11 18:07:59

who is talking about boys hitting girls or girls hitting boys? apart from you?

SuchProspects Wed 05-Jan-11 18:09:07

Learning to punch in isolation doesn't seem like the best situation for that sort of lesson (Karate would be a better environment I would have thought). But unless she's already got issues with hitting other kids it's hardly the end of the world. Just remind her that she shouldn't hit others and move on.

Learning how to punch properly is a really good skill and one that most girls never get taught. It's also not all about fighting. It's about learning how to use your body. Understanding about following through with the force of your movement, for instance, is crucial to being powerful in many situations. I don't see why 5 would be too young.

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo Wed 05-Jan-11 18:09:37

"I dont think any kids should be taught to punch, but its even worse with a girl."

you introduced teh level of acceptance between the sexes. i responded.

friedtoacrisp Wed 05-Jan-11 18:09:43

Oh God. A gender denier. Listen loveit - there are two genders (mostly!) and they are different to one another by design. Stop fretting and go grow some leg hair or something.

Tortington Wed 05-Jan-11 18:10:31

over reacting.

dd now aged 17 can throw a fine punch as she should with two brothers to contend with. the girl can hold her own and i am proud she can.

she stuck up for her twin brother through primary school when he was being bullied

it was her i saw running and jumping on the back of one of the TWO kids waiting for her twin brother outside school.

however its a testament to god parenting for your children to know when it is and when it isn't acceptable.

it would be nice if we all lived in a society where kids wern't mean at schol, bullying didn't exist and the mechanisms in place to prevent it actually worked.

in the world my kids grew up in, you had to hold your own. i always encouraged them to do so.

friedtoacrisp Wed 05-Jan-11 18:11:31

callmeboo wants both genders to stand up to piss. I want to know why!

Tortington Wed 05-Jan-11 18:12:06

bollocks, girls don't hit each other? don't fight? don't bully. cos they all want to study hard and wear frilly dresses


charliesmommy Wed 05-Jan-11 18:12:48

Boo, you are clearly deliberately trying to be confrontational and twist what I said.

Males generally pit their strength AGAINST EACH OTHER

Females dont generally.

That is the general rule for nature and has been since before the wheel was invented and isnt going to change.

It is not a case of stereotyping, it is nature.

Tortington Wed 05-Jan-11 18:13:16

fried - your being a total cock

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