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a bit worried - should i phone dh?

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QuoththeRaven Wed 05-Jan-11 10:42:57

im 34 weeks pregnant. ive had an upset stomach, aching back and severe pains in my sides. Ive had this before, when i went into labour with ds, resulted in me bleeding everywhere when waters went and emcs. DH had slight upset stomach last night so im considering its just cramps from being ill. It hurts to move, just deep breathing atm.

My issue is this. DH works for his dad, and due to bad weather etc has been off for the majority of december due to the nature of his work. He'll be getting time off for baby being born and im booked in for elcs in early feb, so they have a lot of work to do and a lot of catching up due to lack of work in dec.

should i just keep going, or phone dh to see if he can come home. The pain is really bad but bearable if i don't move/do anything. Think im just worrying myself as its almost identical to ds labour pains.

CoronaAndLime Wed 05-Jan-11 10:44:53

I would phone your M/W asap.

Let your Dh know whats going on.


altinkum Wed 05-Jan-11 10:46:00

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Ooopsadaisy Wed 05-Jan-11 10:46:13

Do you have a friend or neighbour who is off work today who could sit with you?

Just to have someone there if you go into labour or if you are sick and can help you and keep an eye on you?

Horrible to be alone when you feel rough. Hope you are well soon. XXX

CuppaTeaJanice Wed 05-Jan-11 10:47:13

Have you phoned the maternity unit, or wherever you are planning to give birth? I think I'd speak to them first.

But your health is more important than DH's work, so don't worry about getting him to come home if you need him.

QuoththeRaven Wed 05-Jan-11 10:47:22

i have no one im prone to overreacting as well.

QuoththeRaven Wed 05-Jan-11 10:47:49

it could just be cramps from being ill

Al1son Wed 05-Jan-11 10:48:01

I'd let him know what's happening and that you've called the midwife but that he should stay at work. It could make it easier for him to leave later if he needs to.

Do make sure that some professional sees you very soon if you think there's a danger of severe bleeding. It's not worth risking that one.

Ooopsadaisy Wed 05-Jan-11 10:48:14

Sorry - meant to add - Ring an ambulance if you have any discharge/waters/bleeding etc while you are alone because of oprevious history. XXX

Rindercella Wed 05-Jan-11 10:48:49

Call your midwife first. Get her to come round and check on you asap. Call your DH & let him know that you are feeling unwell. Put him on standby in case you need to go to hospital.

Good luck and hope it is just a bit of a tummy upset.

NorwegianMoon Wed 05-Jan-11 10:49:21

ring the hospital and go and see them once they have said whats going on you can call your dp home if you are having the baby and if not there is need to call at all

shirazgirl Wed 05-Jan-11 10:49:28

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QuoththeRaven Wed 05-Jan-11 10:49:46

baby kicking me constantly as well, so thats reassuring...

Rindercella Wed 05-Jan-11 10:50:48

Ok. Have you called your mw/hospital yet?

QuietTiger Wed 05-Jan-11 10:52:44

TBH, I doubt that DH or his dad would even think twice about DH coming home if you were unwell.

Better to be safe than sorry - ring the M/W and let her know, but be prepared to go to hospital with DH and get checked, even if it is a false alarm. Better a false alarm than complications with the Pregnancy.

Good luck - sending good thoughts and hoping that it's just a tummy upset, but ring DH and let him know.

Ooopsadaisy Wed 05-Jan-11 10:52:52

Quoth - keep calm as you can (I understand your anxiety).

Any bleeding/discharge/waters - ring ambulance.

If you feel distressed/frightened/confused - ring midwife.

Are you sure you don't have a nearby mate to hug you? You can also swear, yell, cry etc and they'll never hold it against you.

Also - are alone with DS? Who's having him if you have to go in?

Bogeyface Wed 05-Jan-11 10:53:10

Yes it could be cramps from illness, but it also could be labour and its always best to err on the side of caution.

Call the MW and go from there

MunchkinsMumof2 Wed 05-Jan-11 10:53:40

I would get a midwife to come over as I had a stomach bug at 33 weeks and it started my contractions. They kept me in hospital but labour stopped and I went full term. Please remember to keep your fluids up as v important. Hope you feel better soon.

QuoththeRaven Wed 05-Jan-11 10:59:54

right, phoned dh to tell him concerns, he agreed i should phone m/w

tried my local gp (engaged)
tried mw clinic no answer. going to keep trying both

if dh has to leave work his mum or dad will be able to watch the small one. no one close by i can call on really. mil is away out for the day, dh and fil busy at work, not many friends, only one i can count on and she's at work. ill keep trying the phone

faverolles Wed 05-Jan-11 11:03:50

If you can't contact the clinic, phone the labour ward.
Given your history, I would say it's important to get this checked out quickly

sleepysox Wed 05-Jan-11 11:06:01

I agree with faverolles, considering your history.

Keep us posted.

QuoththeRaven Wed 05-Jan-11 11:07:41

no midwifes at gp right now, no answer at m/w clinic so left a message. hopefully they'll get in touch quite quickly.

if i don't hear from them in say - an hour would i phone triage? or Antenatal care? (thinks thats what anc stands for in notes)

funny, i feel so much more helpless second time around than i ever did when preg with my first.

LunaticFringe Wed 05-Jan-11 11:10:11

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Al1son Wed 05-Jan-11 11:10:28

Is that because things didn't go very smoothly last time?

Have you explained what's happening to the surgery staff?

If you don't get a reply or start to get more worried you should probably ring the delivery suite for advice.

faverolles Wed 05-Jan-11 11:13:11

Quoth - do you not have a direct number for the labour ward on your care plan?
If not, ring the hospital and ask to be put through to a mw.
You're 34 weeks pg. You have similar signs to when your first was born, and sounds like things were pretty dramatic.
Stop dithering about on MN and get yourself checked out properly!
(really not wanting to sound rude here, but your priority right now is to make sure your baby and yourself are safe)
Good luck

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