I am 16 weeks pregnant and now a part time worker after my first child.
My husband earns the same as me even though he is full time. I am quite worried about not being able to take a full year off with this baby due to the finances being worse off than last time.....
therefore I was slightly distressed when I was told that my husband wants to buy a better version of his mountain bike for £800 (alot of money for us)
he has a flash mountain bike already and constantly buys smaller purchases around it obviously without discussion, but he feels that I am the unreasonable one as he all he can think about is a suped up new bike and is not spending a second worring about our actual finances.
Do other women have to be the decision makers to keep you from going under or am a a nasty cow?
DH is a camera nut. When he wanted a new camera (despite having a very good one already), he put his existing camera and an lens he didn't use much up for sale on ebay. Only once they had sold for a good price did he buy his new camera, and the items he had sold covered well over two thirds of the cost.
Perhaps you could suggest something similar to your DH around his bike?
Tricky! If mountain biking is his Passion 800 is not a lot 4 a decent bike. 2000 would be nearer the mark with some if my friends spending 6 grand. You r getting off light. That said I remember being saint with a baby and having 2 make do until things become easier and I could afford a decent bike. (i'm saving up again! ) I do understand your sh but be has 2 go easy until things are better.
Nanc - I would seriously consider separate bank accounts where you both pay in a sum of money to a joint account to cover joint bills and what's left in your acc is yours to spend ....... and NOT be used for baby/household etc
Same for him and then he is free to buy whatever he likes with regard to bikes.
BUT you must be scrupulous in setting it up to make sure you both cover joint bills and you don't end up financing his life by covering certain expenses that should be joint