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blondieno1 Tue 04-Jan-11 14:13:53

Long story so will try to break it down.

In short DD8's father has stopped paying maintenance since August, he now owes me over £1000 he says he isn't working which I am not sure I believe.

He is remarried with 4 step children. These children have 3 different fathers that all pay maintenance for their own children.

Before Christmas DD said that her new bedroom which she shares with her youngest step sister had been redecorated with brand new beds, bedlinen, furniture and TWO tv's. After Christmas DD came home and told myself and DH how many presents she received etc.

DH and I cant afford these type of things for DD. I'm getting a little hmm about how he is affording to pay for all these things, DD says that every time they go shopping Daddy gets his card out and says to his DW "I'll get this..." Pub lunches every other weekend etc etc

If I am honest, it's really pissing me off as he seems to forget that his own daughter needs a roof over her head, food and heating etc. If he can afford things like I have mentioned why can't he afford maintenance.

I have been to the CSA and I was told that as he is not working hmm or claiming any benefits I was entitled to nothing!

I'm sorry for the ramblings but I am really, really angry

Chil1234 Tue 04-Jan-11 14:52:14

Chances are that he's either doing something criminal to get the cash, moonlighting/CiH work or that he's racking up a massive CC bill and will hit the ground face first any minute.... Keep an ear out and if you think it's option 2 call that Benefit Scrounger Hotline or whatever it's called and shop him

mutznutz Tue 04-Jan-11 14:55:28

Probably has no way or no intention of paying the CC off.

By the way, how does two TVs in the same room work out lol?

Chil1234 Tue 04-Jan-11 14:58:05

... sorry, just seen that he's not claiming benefits. I'd keep on at him with plenty of phonecalls and keep bothering the CSA... what have you got to lose?

blondieno1 Tue 04-Jan-11 15:03:22

The problem is that if I call him he wont answer or he'll start getting abusive. If I text him I just get one word answers or that I should just leave him alone as he's not going to keep going over old ground.....

WRT to the two T.V's - I have no idea lol, I think it's to rub my nose in it kind of thing as he probably knows DD will tell me....

Lonnie Tue 04-Jan-11 15:07:02

YANBU to be frustrated but sadly at the moment all you can do is wait wait wait and remember karma is a wonderful thing

Chil1234 Tue 04-Jan-11 15:12:56

Or run him down in your car.... I've noticed that this is a really good way to commit the perfect murder. Just claim you were distracted by a sneeze or a wasp or something, mount the pavement accidentally, oh dear.. splat.. and the worst they can charge you with is Careless Driving. Short ban and a fine. Voila

blondieno1 Tue 04-Jan-11 15:33:39

I would if i could afford the petrol lol

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