Went round a friend's last night, so 6 adults there, DH and I, friend A and her DH and friend B and her DH, plus DC.
There was a whole big drama about a present A had for her DH to open at midnight. Her DH thought it was one thing and kept asking everyone what is was. B knew what is was and A's DH eventually said 'unless you tell me what is is, your DH won't get his promotion at work'. (He is in a position of power at work, but although he gets a say in who is recommended for promotion, is is not up to him at all). He was sort of joking, but he regularly makes 'jokes' like this in social settings and he is always keen to bandy his 'power' about. (and uses the word 'power' too!) When he opened it it wasn't what he thought it was and he was openly disappointed. He then started to complain to A that it wasn't something he would want, was a crap version of the thing anyway and went on and on about it in front of everyone else, including their two teenage DD's.
Later on, A's oldest DD (17), who had had a few glasses of wine mixed with lemonade through the night, was sick. It was obviously through drink, but she genuinely hadn't had much alcohol. However, she also hadn't been eating much all day according to A and A is worried about her eating and her DH keeps calling both DD's 'fat'. (they are both skinny minnies!) A's DH then proceeded to speak quite aggressively to A in front of everyone and ended by saying 'I'll speak to you about this tomorrow, I'm very disappointed'.
He always behaves like this and worse. It is always very uncomfortable for everyone around them. People in the main put up with him for A's sake. I find it very hard to be around him. I am quite outspoken and find it hard to see him embarrass A in front of others on a regular basis. Surely men don't normally behave like this?
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To Think My Friend's Husband Is An Utter Twat and Very Controlling?
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NewYearName · 01/01/2011 13:42
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