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To cancel my new years eve party?

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Spidermama Tue 28-Dec-10 16:41:20

The kids all had some kind of flu' before Christmas. Now I seem to have it. I have a temperature and sore lungs and feel pretty bad.

We're supposed to be having a NYE party. Around 20 people and some of their kids have confirmed. There are around the same number still dithering playing it by ear.

Thing is, I'm stressed about it now. I think, given that we've all be ill over christmas and I'm ill now, I should cancel and get on with it to enable people to make alternative arrangements.

DH says we can't cancel and informs me I'll be better by Friday.

What would you do?

HettyAmaretti Tue 28-Dec-10 16:43:10

Either you cancel or DH does all the work. I'd cancel.

violethill Tue 28-Dec-10 16:46:58

I would postpone and have a Not New Year party a few weeks down the line when you're better. By about February everyone will be desperate for some socialising again

Spidermama Tue 28-Dec-10 16:47:06

He'll say ... 'Don't worry I'll do all the work' then he actually won't because he doesn't fully understand what it takes to run this house and have a party too.

I worry that I will leave lots of people and their kids in the lurch. People are bringing decks, vinyl and all sorts of stuff.

My other option would be to let him have the party and go off to my mums in Dorset for a couple of days to recuperate. Can't see him liking that idea.

southeastastra Tue 28-Dec-10 16:47:53

sounds fun! i wouldn't cancel but then again would love a party like that

Spidermama Tue 28-Dec-10 16:48:33

That's not a bad idea violet. It's always good to have a party in February to see you through the winter. Thing is by then I will be back at work so recovery time won't exist.

chrimblycompo Tue 28-Dec-10 16:49:54

I think if you've all been ill this is just what you need
think of the kids and how much they'll enjoy it
it's only one night
and it's not until Friday evening
it will look odd to cancel today for something that isn't until Friday
but next year let someone else invite you to their party grin

Spidermama Tue 28-Dec-10 16:50:09

This is just it SEA. It would be fun. We did it last year. We have quite a lot of parties and most people don't invite kids so I reckon it must be nice for people as they don't have to find a babysitter but they can have a proper party.

I wish more people would do it so I didn't always have to.

HettyAmaretti Tue 28-Dec-10 16:55:41

My DP would also allegedly do all the work and still leave a mountain for me (genuinely believing he'd done everything).

I agree with Violet.

SpringHeeledJack Tue 28-Dec-10 17:00:09

oh, it sounds fab

you should be fine by Friday- by which time, of course, dp would have done all the prep work (as directed by you), leaving you free to have fun. Sounds like you deserve it, after a Poorly Christmas. At least that way you get something back

can I come please


ilovesooty Tue 28-Dec-10 17:01:16

YANBU. Cancel it. Hope you're better soon.

VallhalaLalalalalalalalaaaaaa Tue 28-Dec-10 17:02:18

I'm with Hetty and would, if DH were determined to selfishly go ahead and yet leave me with all the work, go away for New Year leaving him to handle the party and the children singlehandedly. If he didn't like it, that would be tough AFAIAC.

bellavita Tue 28-Dec-10 17:06:23

DH and I have been and still are ill from this horrible virus thing going around. The last thing I would like to be is hostess to a new years eve's party.

Fibonacci Tue 28-Dec-10 17:08:52

YANBU - you should cancel then you won't worry about whether you'll be well enough by Friday. My Mum has had this flu thing for a week now. people will understand.

defineme Tue 28-Dec-10 17:09:16

I would write him the mother of all lists including all the day to day stuff that needs to be done as well as the party stuff.

Then I'd say 'here you go-I wrote a list to help you out as you don't do the organising as much as me. I'm afraid I have to go to bed nnow, it would be great if you kept the kids quiet. I think I better stay in bed all tomorrow too.'

It does look a bit shit if it's the family party and you cancel cos you are ill-would you cancel if dh had flu?

I was ill for 2 weeks with 'mild flu', but I could do social things by the end of the first week as long as I did none of the work.

herbietea Tue 28-Dec-10 17:13:52

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Spidermama Tue 28-Dec-10 17:16:30

I am worried I won't be well in time and the worrying isn't going to help the healing process.

What about the idea of my going to mums for a couple of days so they can have the party without me. Is that too weird?

violethill Tue 28-Dec-10 17:24:45

Yes, you'll miss the fun.


izzywizzywoowooo Tue 28-Dec-10 17:26:13

YANBU - Hope you get better soon.

WimpleOfTheBallet Tue 28-Dec-10 17:29:33

Can you write him some basic instructions and then bugger off? It'll turn out fine...if there are people, music and drink there's a party.

cupofteaplease Tue 28-Dec-10 17:31:14

I wouldn't cancel. Only because it is very late notice for all the people who have planned to spend their new year's eve with you.

However, I'd ask your dh to be prepared to do the lion's share of the work.

defineme Tue 28-Dec-10 17:31:44

Not weird at all-it's afamily party-lots of people counting on coming. Maybe contact those that you can and let them know it's dh single handed- they may pitch in to help.

Aims80 Tue 28-Dec-10 17:37:08

It's a bit late notice to cancel really. I'd give him a list and rest for a couple of days so you can enjoy the party.

Spidermama Tue 28-Dec-10 17:38:56

Good idea. Was already thinking I should get people to contribute to the buffet because if you don't specifically ask people they won't do it.

I think I'll go to mum's tomorrow and leave dh to it. If I feel well enough I may or may not deign to join my party on the night.

<rubs hands> Sounds like a plan to me.

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