OK, I don't think I'm being unreasonable to be a bit miffed at this, but am wondering how best to tackle it.
Disclaimer: I don't EXPECT DS to be given wonderful expensive presents, and understand that some GPs do seem to have (unfairly) favourite grandchildren. Am also trying not to be ungrateful.
(Very) Brief Background:DS is 16 months old, and was adopted by us in Jan this year. DH's parents struggle to accept him, but (in their own way) try, and have now babysat for him, and spent a short amount of time with him.
Boxing day - we went to DH's parents house for dinner, along with DH's brother, SIL and their DD (aged 3)
Presents were distributed from PIL (DC's grandparents)
DN received: a (really lovely) rocking horse, a dolls house with dolls and loads of furniture, plus gift voucher for £25 to get more furniture, tickets to a local pantomime, clothes, numerous toys, and a whiteboard easel and pens
DS received: A dressing gown (he now has 3), a cardigan, a set of bath toys and a hat/scarf set from Matalan.
That was it.
Now - on one level I am fuming, as I think this was grossly unfair, but my head is telling me not to get drawn in, and to understand that we do not have the right to expect presents, and should be happy with whatever we get. DS is only 16 months old - he doesn't know the difference. YET
But next year, and all the following years, this can't be allowed can it? He can't be ostracised like this. So, do I say something, or do I just remove him in the future from this potentially toxic environment where, when he is older, he will see the comparison for himself? Or do I do both? Because right now, I just want to tell them what shit grandparents this has made them.
It's NOT the presents. i wouldn't waste anger over that, if it hadn't been for the utter favouritism shown to DN.
Sorry for rant. what shall I do?
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