Please don't flame me - I know this seems quite irrational now but after reading a few threads on experiences with bad childminders I have been thinking about this a lot.
DS is now 9 but when he was 3 he went to a childminder who had fantastic reviews, kids in her care seemed happy, house was clean etc. At the time we lived in a very small village where everyone knew each other and this woman had come highly recommended. However she didn't take to DS at all and after a while it became apparent to me that she didn't like me or him at all. I was going through a period of depression at the time and was having a really shitty time at work too so chalked it down to my mental health rather than her. Some examples of what she did were.
Told DS that his clothes were horrible (they weren't) and wasn't his mummy awful for not always ironing all his clothes. She took particular exception to a lovely coat he had from pumpkin patch which he looked gorgeous in and would try to put him in another coat she had from Next whenever she had him.
One of my friends at the time had a mother in law who was also a childminder. When she was round at her MIL's this woman was there completely slating one of her mindees parents for not always ironing clothes. The MIL shrugged and asked why she was so bothered. However she used DS's name so it was obvious she was talking about me which my friend told me about afterwards.
On one occasion she was going straight out and put DS straight into her car rather than him going into her house first. The handle of my bag snapped so I kissed Ds goodbye and was busy picking up all my stuff. When I stood up she was about to drive off but DS's door was ajar. I had to stop her so I could shut it and she said it was my fault and that I should have checked even though she was the one who had put him in the car.
And finally.... the two serious ones.
Ds started getting upset about going there and said she had been smacking his hand when he was naughty. She denied it but he still talks even now about the horrible woman who used to smack him 
And she had a son who was 18 and lived with her who had aspergers. I don't know the full extent of his aspergers but he wasn't able to live independently but did have a CRB. Ds came home and asked me what a dip shit was. He then told me the childminders son had been picking him up and throwing him onto the furniture calling him a dip shit and a stupid fucker. I was livid and told the childminder that thhis was completely unacceptable. Her answer was. "What do you expect, its not his fault. He has aspergers"
I took him out of there that day.
However I am ashamed to say I was not strong enough to complain about her then. She had such amazing references both on paper and from other mindees who were there. She was great with other kids, she just didn't seem to like my DS She was also very popular in the village whereas I was a newcomer, and with my situation at work it was all I could do to get through the day. I simply could not take on anything else. However now I am much stronger and regret not complaining at the time. Is it too late now? I would hate to think of her doing this to another child.
Please be gentle with me 
AIBU?
Is 6 years later too late to complain about this childminder
Notalone · 27/12/2010 12:27
- by a cm Mama? Thats awful. I was thinking more of Ofsted though rather than the police. Is that who you were referring to Mole?
You don't need to find out if they are actively minding or not. You just need to give them the details that were correct at the time. They can then trace from there is they decide to take any action. It will help a lot if you can find some paperwork with the registration URN on, as even if a childminder moves home that number can remain the same. Think back 6 years... what might you have used that number for? Benefits claim, some kind of work childcare voucher scheme. Search through old e-mail, sometimes surprising what can be located.
Ofsted's website does not list people by name generally, just by URN. Local authority website may list by name but won't give the URN. You can't usually find out online the name of someone from a URN, or the URN of someone from the name.
Writing the letter may well result in nothing. However it will make you feel better
I would have used it to claim WTC I guess. Its a shame there is no way of linking the URN to name and vice versa. I guess I will call Ofsted first and see what they say and will follow this by a letter afterwards. Will I be named or will it all be anonymous?
She was awful Manatee - it really feels horrible when someone does this. Sorry it happenned to you too - they really have no right to do this. My CM used to involve my DS who would say things like "Mummy - X says you are mean for not ironing my clothes. Are you mean? I don't think you are"
It is anonymous. My friend reported the CM I mentioned, because she also had too many under 3s.
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