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AIBU to be really annoyed about this email from an ex?

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CrossEx Tue 21-Dec-10 17:31:52

Have namechanged because I think my ex's wife posts here too.

I got an invite to be a contact from a long-gone ex on Linked In (which is a sort of business version of Facebook). Thought there was no harm in accepting his request so I did. Then yesterday, I got a message from him asking how I was and reminding me of a particularly steamy session we had once.

I haven't replied obviously but AIBU to think it's completely bloody wrong to send something like that to an ex when you're married with three children? What a twat angry

HecTheHallsWithBoughsOfHolly Tue 21-Dec-10 17:33:53

Yes. It is very wrong.

I assume you can block people?

I think simply blocking without replying and having no further contact sends him a clear message.

His poor bloody wife though. sad

If I was the mner whose husband this is - I'd want a copy of that fucking message. angry

CrossEx Tue 21-Dec-10 17:35:20

Honestly Hecate I'm bloody tempted. I'm absolutely furious. I haven't seen him or is wife for ages but I have met his wife a few times and she is lovely. Even if she weren't, she deserves better.


whoknowswhatthefutureholds Tue 21-Dec-10 17:35:48

wanker. block him. I wouls be very tempted to write a rude message first.

Calling him pathetic.

Metherbumfit Tue 21-Dec-10 17:35:50

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ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo Tue 21-Dec-10 17:36:56

sounds like he's looking a bit of a repeat session.

Metherbumfit Tue 21-Dec-10 17:38:37

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HecTheHallsWithBoughsOfHolly Tue 21-Dec-10 17:40:04

poor, poor woman.

HollyBollyBooBoo Tue 21-Dec-10 17:42:52

YANBU - totally out of order. Don't know what goes through blokes heads. I personally wouldn't do anything like send it to his wife though, just don't think it's your place and I wouldn't want to potentially wreck a relationship for what could potentially have been a one-off/slightly drunk/generally idiotic thing to do.

Write back to him and tell him how inappropriate this behaviour is and that it is effectively emotionally cheating on his wife.

Unrulysanta Tue 21-Dec-10 17:45:19

YANBU - yeuch.

I have an ex who contacts me every so often presumably when all the females have left Brighton for the weekend. The last exchange was:

Him - are you married yet?

Me - yes.

The End.

AIBU to think he could dress it up a bit? Maybe open with 'how are you?'

BitOfFun Tue 21-Dec-10 17:50:01

Don't message him- just ignore and block. Speaks for itself.

CrossEx Tue 21-Dec-10 18:13:44

I agree BOF - I'm not going to engage with him. I know he'd just say that I was being po-faced and taking him too seriously so it would be pointless.

PrincessScrumpy Tue 21-Dec-10 18:26:14

It's quite sad that he hasn't moved on. We occasionally (once in 2 years) see my ex as he lives near my in-laws and was a friend of DHs so they have mutual friends. He has on all 3 occasions come up to me and said "I had a dream about you the other night...." then he goes on to describe so lesbian fantasy-type scene, infront of whoever is their, friends, people I don't know and DH! DH thinks it's weird and everyone just stares at him until he stops talking then we change the subject.

Particularly odd as he finished with me.

LisaD1 Tue 21-Dec-10 18:41:10

YANBU - had a similar email a few years ago from an ex which ended with his asking if I fancied a coffee! I said "yes, coffee sounds lovely, my husband and I will go for one later" and then promptly blocked the twat!

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