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To expect to be informed about illness

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QuadMummy Tue 21-Dec-10 16:35:49

Am I being unreasonable to expect to be informed that the friends that I am planning on visiting, on ill? I went to my friends house the other day (which was planned 3 days before) only to get there and find their son was home school ill (only a cold) and that my friend and her partner was also ill with a cold. Once I got there, I couldnt make excuses to leave, but I was sat there desparately trying not to breathe in their germs (I'm 24+ weeks pregnant with quadruplets ffs!)

chrimblycompo Tue 21-Dec-10 16:37:40

But everyone has a cold this time of year
if you go into a shop, onto a bus , in a cafe you'd be exposed to the same amount of germs
life goes on with colds otherwise everything would be shut down

fibernachi Tue 21-Dec-10 16:38:20


If it was chicken pox or other highly infectious and potentially serious illness YWNBU.

Who hasn't got a cold in the winter? If it bothers you and you want to avoid it, ask if anyone is ill when you make arrangements.

chitchatinsantasear Tue 21-Dec-10 16:40:18

Well if I were your friend I would certainly tell you! So YANBU, WANTING to know, but as otheres have said, at this time of year everyone's ill! My DS2 has been on and off ill for the last 4 months!!!

Gaston Tue 21-Dec-10 16:42:50

It is likely there are lots of colds around. But if you had been visiting me I would have warned you, especially as you are pregnant with quadruplets (wow! congrats btw!)
and you never know if it is going to be more than just a cold if it was their first day or so of symptoms, there are some nasty flu viruses arond.

Gaston Tue 21-Dec-10 16:43:03

around even x

atswimtwolengths Tue 21-Dec-10 16:49:34

For god's sake, how can she be unreasonable? She's expecting QUADRUPLETS! She HAS to stay healthy.

Some people here really seem to post without reading the OP or thinking.

Pancakeflipper Tue 21-Dec-10 16:51:21

Cold and that flu bug are zipping all around. If I avoided everyone with a runny nose or cough I'd not see anyone until May.

Sickness and runny bums are another matter.

Hulababy Tue 21-Dec-10 16:51:51

I think knowing you are pregnant with quadruplets (wow, congratulations btw!) they should have thought on and told you. I imagine you have to take really good care of yourself.

agedknees Tue 21-Dec-10 16:55:15

YANBU. I would have told you I had a cold if you where coming to see me.

Take care. And congratulations.

Myleetlepony Tue 21-Dec-10 17:41:03

Check with your doctor, but mine told me that once cold symptoms are visible the infectious stage has passed.

JaneS Tue 21-Dec-10 17:45:04

YANBU at all. No point you worrying when you've got plenty else to be thinking about!

I would be concerned if for no other reason than that once the babies are born, they will almost certainly need special caution around seemingly trivial colds. The poster who said 'who hasn't got a cold' - would you visit a mum with premature babies on the same basis? I'm guessing not but if I were pregnant with quads, that's the way I'd be worrying!

JaneS Tue 21-Dec-10 17:45:43

Ps- congratulations! smile

MumInBeds Tue 21-Dec-10 17:48:31

YANBU - I always make a point of letting people we are due to meet with if we have colds or the like and none of my friends are currently pregnant.

Mrsfred Tue 21-Dec-10 17:49:38

I would have telephoned you first. I think it is only fair to warn someone if you have a stinking cold so they can make their own decision as to whether or not they want to risk it!

Also, if their child ill enough to be off school, then it must be a pretty nasty cold.

minipie Tue 21-Dec-10 17:51:37


If you weren't pregnant then YABU, but pregnant (especially with quadruplets!!) is another matter! You must be knackered anyway without catching a cold!

OhYouSnowySnowyKitten Tue 21-Dec-10 19:43:44

Welcome to MN Quadmummy.
Sadly I think half the world has a cold or worse atm.

verytellytubby Tue 21-Dec-10 19:46:27

Pregnant with quads. Congrats. Only a twin mum so hats off to you smile

Everyone has a cold. I wouldn't think to tell anyone as my kids have a permanent sniffle from October - March.

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