My feed
Premium

Please
or
to access all these features

AIBU?

to think this is irresponsible parenting

22 replies

borderslass · 20/12/2010 22:43

DD2 [15] has her senior dance tonight one of her friends who is also going told her shes walking home as her parents won't collect her its a 2 mile walk finishes at 11.15 and at 9pm was already -10. DD2 and I have both told her we'll take her home she is also more vulnerable than most as she has mild learning difficulties.

OP posts:
Report
JodiesMummy · 20/12/2010 22:44

yanbu - poor girl.

Report
bupcakesandcunting · 20/12/2010 22:45

YANBU! That's ridiculous. I would be furious as it puts pressure on more diligent parents like you to ensure this girls safety whilst her idle parents are sat on their arses.

Report
BringOnTheGoat · 20/12/2010 22:46

I am a big advocate of make em walk and don't molly coddle but that is awful - YADNBU at all!

Report
LoopyLoopsOfSparklyFairyLights · 20/12/2010 22:47

Oh goodness. Well done for taking care of her yourself, poor girl.

Report
onceamai · 20/12/2010 22:50

You won't change the parents (do they have learning difficulties too?) but you can support the girl - poor thing.

Report
tomorrowsanotherday · 20/12/2010 22:51

YANBU - they are being very irresponsible Sad

Report
GetOrfMoiLand · 20/12/2010 22:52

No that is awful.

I am from the laid back school of teenage parenting, but this is completly selfish on part of the parents.

It is freezing out there. Why can't they pick her up, the lazy sods.

Report
purplepidjbauble · 20/12/2010 22:52

I'm 29 and and would be wary of walking around that late at night.

A couple of years ago, three local teenagers were wiped out on a country lane walking home from a NYE party. The sensible, follow the green cross code type of teenager, not the dodge-the-traffic-for-a-giggle type.

YANBU, well done for looking after her

Report
FabbyChic · 20/12/2010 22:52

What awful parents. Far too late for a child to be walking anywhere let alone 2 miles home.

Report
hairyfairylights · 20/12/2010 22:53

YANBU! poor child!

Report
ReindeerBollocks · 20/12/2010 22:55

YANBU - thank goodness you were around to give her a lift!

Report
TheCrackFox · 20/12/2010 22:58

YANBU -That's pretty bad actually.

Report
Curiousmama · 20/12/2010 23:01

Sad poor girl.

Report
earwicga · 20/12/2010 23:03

YANBU. Awful parenting.

Report
onceamai · 20/12/2010 23:03

If the weather's as bad where you are as it is here in this part of SW London I'm surprised the dance hasn't been cancelled. Come to think of it, is it actually safe to drive? Safe journey OP and you're still not YANBU for collecting but I think the organisers are probably U for going ahead with this.

Report
usualsuspect · 20/12/2010 23:04

I'm the most chilled teenage parent ever but I think they could pick her up if they have a car

Report
swanandduck · 20/12/2010 23:06

I would wonder what other areas those parents are being neglectful in. They sound either very selfish or very thick. YANBU.

Report
GetOrfMoiLand · 20/12/2010 23:09

I think there is no more certain way of saying to your dd 'I don't give a fuck about you'.

Teenagers need tlc, and love. They don't need smothering, but they need to know they are loved.

Poor kid. Good on you for collecting her.

I too would wonder about her, imagine she spends a lot of time in her room, alone. Sad

Report
MadamDeathstare · 20/12/2010 23:58

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

confuddledDOTcom · 21/12/2010 00:36

My mum would go mad if my partner let me walk home 2 miles and I'm nearly 30! She used to get upset that I went out on my own when it meant leaving the block I lived in and crossing the road.

I think you've done the right thing taking her home yourself. As a teenager I twice told people that they weren't walking home my parents would take them and then told my parents when they got there Wink because I knew they would do the same. First was a girl from Girl's Brigade who must have been pre or early teen, I took her to the office after a party to call her parents and they told her to walk, only about half a mile but dark, late and she was only a kid. Second one was my XH first day we met. He was going to walk about 2 miles in December late at night after a night out with our friends. That wasn't his parents though.

Report
izzywizzywoowooo · 21/12/2010 00:39

YANBU and good on ya for giving her a lift.

Her parents musn't give a shit.

Report
ChippingIn · 21/12/2010 01:27

Unreal. I wouldn't let anyone walk at that time of night in the weather we have here, but a child???? FFS some people don't deserve to be parents :(

Report

Don’t want to miss threads like this?

Weekly

Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!

Log in to update your newsletter preferences.

You've subscribed!

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.