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to think this is irresponsible parenting

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borderslass Mon 20-Dec-10 22:43:25

DD2 [15] has her senior dance tonight one of her friends who is also going told her shes walking home as her parents won't collect her its a 2 mile walk finishes at 11.15 and at 9pm was already -10. DD2 and I have both told her we'll take her home she is also more vulnerable than most as she has mild learning difficulties.

JodiesMummy Mon 20-Dec-10 22:44:07

yanbu - poor girl.

bupcakesandcunting Mon 20-Dec-10 22:45:01

YANBU! That's ridiculous. I would be furious as it puts pressure on more diligent parents like you to ensure this girls safety whilst her idle parents are sat on their arses.

BringOnTheGoat Mon 20-Dec-10 22:46:45

I am a big advocate of make em walk and don't molly coddle but that is awful - YADNBU at all!

LoopyLoopsOfSparklyFairyLights Mon 20-Dec-10 22:47:59

Oh goodness. Well done for taking care of her yourself, poor girl.

onceamai Mon 20-Dec-10 22:50:16

You won't change the parents (do they have learning difficulties too?) but you can support the girl - poor thing.

tomorrowsanotherday Mon 20-Dec-10 22:51:57

YANBU - they are being very irresponsible sad

purplepidjbauble Mon 20-Dec-10 22:52:38

I'm 29 and and would be wary of walking around that late at night.

A couple of years ago, three local teenagers were wiped out on a country lane walking home from a NYE party. The sensible, follow the green cross code type of teenager, not the dodge-the-traffic-for-a-giggle type.

YANBU, well done for looking after her

GetOrfMoiLand Mon 20-Dec-10 22:52:38

No that is awful.

I am from the laid back school of teenage parenting, but this is completly selfish on part of the parents.

It is freezing out there. Why can't they pick her up, the lazy sods.

FabbyChic Mon 20-Dec-10 22:52:48

What awful parents. Far too late for a child to be walking anywhere let alone 2 miles home.

hairyfairylights Mon 20-Dec-10 22:53:17

YANBU! poor child!

ReindeerBollocks Mon 20-Dec-10 22:55:42

YANBU - thank goodness you were around to give her a lift!

TheCrackFox Mon 20-Dec-10 22:58:50

YANBU -That's pretty bad actually.

Curiousmama Mon 20-Dec-10 23:01:37

sad poor girl.

earwicga Mon 20-Dec-10 23:03:37

YANBU. Awful parenting.

onceamai Mon 20-Dec-10 23:03:38

If the weather's as bad where you are as it is here in this part of SW London I'm surprised the dance hasn't been cancelled. Come to think of it, is it actually safe to drive? Safe journey OP and you're still not YANBU for collecting but I think the organisers are probably U for going ahead with this.

usualsuspect Mon 20-Dec-10 23:04:37

I'm the most chilled teenage parent ever but I think they could pick her up if they have a car

swanandduck Mon 20-Dec-10 23:06:42

I would wonder what other areas those parents are being neglectful in. They sound either very selfish or very thick. YANBU.

GetOrfMoiLand Mon 20-Dec-10 23:09:31

I think there is no more certain way of saying to your dd 'I don't give a fuck about you'.

Teenagers need tlc, and love. They don't need smothering, but they need to know they are loved.

Poor kid. Good on you for collecting her.

I too would wonder about her, imagine she spends a lot of time in her room, alone. sad

MadamDeathstare Mon 20-Dec-10 23:58:48

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confuddledDOTcom Tue 21-Dec-10 00:36:15

My mum would go mad if my partner let me walk home 2 miles and I'm nearly 30! She used to get upset that I went out on my own when it meant leaving the block I lived in and crossing the road.

I think you've done the right thing taking her home yourself. As a teenager I twice told people that they weren't walking home my parents would take them and then told my parents when they got there wink because I knew they would do the same. First was a girl from Girl's Brigade who must have been pre or early teen, I took her to the office after a party to call her parents and they told her to walk, only about half a mile but dark, late and she was only a kid. Second one was my XH first day we met. He was going to walk about 2 miles in December late at night after a night out with our friends. That wasn't his parents though.

izzywizzywoowooo Tue 21-Dec-10 00:39:45

YANBU and good on ya for giving her a lift.

Her parents musn't give a shit.

ChippingIn Tue 21-Dec-10 01:27:27

Unreal. I wouldn't let anyone walk at that time of night in the weather we have here, but a child???? FFS some people don't deserve to be parents

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