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to have made my mum cry..

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natandchris10 Mon 20-Dec-10 19:59:40

she deserved it..

saturday night her and my dad cancelled going to a birthday party because he was put on call from work.. so she said she would have LO (9months) over night for us to get a rest.. she mentioned they would nip the present to the person at the do...

bearing in mind my LO goes to bed every day without fail at 7pm, they took the present at 8.30. i spoke to mum just after 8.30 and she said they would be going straight home after 5 mins so i said fine no problem, i said please let me know your all home and LO is sleeping and ok, gets to 9.30pm and i had heard nothing so i thought i would call her.. i rang her mobile, dads mobile, dads work phone, house phone about 300000 times each and got no answer, got to 10.30 and still no answer...

I was going out of my mind..pacing the floor the phone rang at 11pm it was my mum, she tells me they are at the party and LO was 'fine'

i flipped. i couldnt belive how iressponsible she had been. her excuse was no signal. bollox cause it rang. i shouted at her until she cried.

Ormirian Mon 20-Dec-10 20:00:48


You really need to ask?

EvilTwinsAteRudolph Mon 20-Dec-10 20:01:07

YABU. Total over-reaction.

natandchris10 Mon 20-Dec-10 20:01:18

to add to this LO has had a stinking cold for weeks and weeks.

PaisleyLeaf Mon 20-Dec-10 20:01:48

Good thing work weren't trying to get hold of your dad then.

scurryfunge Mon 20-Dec-10 20:02:08

If you don't trust your mother to look after your child at all, they do not have her babysitting. Sounds like she was happy to give you a break and you've gone allprecious about it. Shame on you for making someone cry.

AnnOnimous Mon 20-Dec-10 20:02:14

YABVU to shout at your mum till she cries.

BitOfFun Mon 20-Dec-10 20:02:18

You sound like a bit of a twat, to be honest. But I'm sure you won't be troubled by her ever babysitting again, so no worries, eh?

EricNorthpolesChristmas Mon 20-Dec-10 20:02:33

she was with your parents. hmm

Rosedee Mon 20-Dec-10 20:02:33

I think yabu and over reacting slightly, can understand you not being happy but to shout til she cries? Some stern words would have done it surely?

LifeForRent Mon 20-Dec-10 20:03:00

YANBU. Me and my dh are SO strict on routine for our ds (10 months). He goes to bed at 5.15pm and sleeps through until 7.15am (without fail and on the dot).

He's only ever had one night away from home as I'm quite controlling about that kind of thing, and that was when we were stuck at the airport picking up a friend and my mum was already babysitting.

I would've flipped, I understand how important routine is (and yes, before you assholes start looking for a fight, one night does make a difference). Furthermore I'd be pissed off I couldn't get hold of anyone, especially when they had gone off out, assuring you they'd be back in 90 minutes. I'd be fuming. Regardless of whether or not she cried, YANBU. You're right on the mark.

APixieInMyTea Mon 20-Dec-10 20:03:33

Complete over reaction.

Your poor mum was giving you a break and you shouted so much she physically cried.

I think a very apologetic phone call is in order.

belgo Mon 20-Dec-10 20:03:51

I'm surprised they went to a party when your dad was on call, and didn't have a phone with a signal.

I would not be happy about whoever was babysitting my child taking them to a party until 11pm.

comewhinewithme Mon 20-Dec-10 20:04:20

Why was your DS with your parents while he had a stinking cold?

Not very nice to pass on a grumpy snotty baby to your Mum.


backwardpossom Mon 20-Dec-10 20:04:21

And was your LO fine? Did s/he die of having one night up late? I can understand why you were pissed off about not being able to get a hold of her, but really I think asking her to phone you etc was a little controlling. Do you not trust your mother with your LO?

So yes, I think YABU. Your poor mother.

pooka Mon 20-Dec-10 20:04:29


In my opinion and experience, the very occasional night "off-routine" is not the end of the world.

Yes she should have rung you. BUt at the same time, your baby was fine, they were having fun. And so to shout at her until she cried was way out of line.

But then Idon't know the back story. I know my mother obviously, and that she managed to raise me and my brothers, and therefore I tend to trust her to use her judgement. You might have an entirely different relationship with your parents.

I wouldn't hold my breath wrt future breaks though....

Blu Mon 20-Dec-10 20:04:30

I think you should apologise for your over-reaction. A 9m old will either fal asleep or be awak and OK - if she had been grizzling and howling, surely your Mum would have taken her home.

discobeaver Mon 20-Dec-10 20:05:22

Totally over the top. Either trust your mum or don't. I would be ashamed if I treated my mum like that. Good luck getting her to sit for you again.

fishtankneedscleaning Mon 20-Dec-10 20:05:40

Sorry YABVU. He was safe with his grandparents. He missed his bedtime so what???

natandchris10 Mon 20-Dec-10 20:05:53

thank you lifeforrent...

I flipped mostly because i couldnt get through to her, i was worried sick! she said they were leaving at 8.30 and noone was answering i thought they had had a car crash or something..

I would trust my mum with my life and my LOs life, thats why i am so bloody disappointed in her.

LO has cried since yesterday from being so bloody tired

pooka Mon 20-Dec-10 20:06:08

Lifeforrent being of the opinion that a night here and there where routine is not followed is not the end of the world does not make someone an arsehole

scurryfunge Mon 20-Dec-10 20:07:00

Bemused at LifeforRent's comment about people looking for a fight when she has just called posters arseholes.
Suggest you keep it polite.LFR smile

Tootlesmummy Mon 20-Dec-10 20:07:03

YABU, it was one night, your LO would have been perfectly fine and probably fell asleep in the car seat.

LFR, strangely enough a good number of us do have children/babies and also have experiences of routines and late nights etc so cut out the crap attitude.

lifeinagoldfishbowl Mon 20-Dec-10 20:07:11


EvilTwinsAteRudolph Mon 20-Dec-10 20:07:12

LifeForRent - we were very very strict on routine when our DTDs were little, and I still think that it's the main reason they sleep so well now (4.6 now)

However, I think shouting at your own mother til she cries because she didn't put your baby to bed at the right time is massively out of order and incredibly rude.

If you're so stuck on routine, then don't let anyone else look after your baby.

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