We are having a quiet Christmas at home this year, just me, DH, DS (4.6), our new baby, who will be 7 weeks, and DH's 26 year old niece. Friends across the road will probably pop in for a drink after lunch.
Last year's Christmas was hard work - we hosted friends for Christmas lunch, and one of them invited a friend of his, and her mother visiting from overseas, who sniped at each other throughout the day. DH and I both worked hard, I felt like a waitress, and there wasn't a lot of fun to be had.
Yesterday DN rang to ask if a friend of hers from overseas could join us for Christmas. She is staying on the other side of town, so would need to stay over if she came to us. Whilst I don't mind this girl spending the day with us, I really don't want someone I've never met staying overnight in our two bedroom flat when I have a 7 week old baby. DH thinks it would be fun, says I'm a killjoy and am being uncharitable and selfish. He's being very pouty about it.
Baby DD has been waking at night for feeds every 1 1/2 hours and I have been completely exhausted, although the last two nights she has been sleeping slightly longer. Whilst DH is very helpful with DS, he doesn't help with anything else around the house, hasn't yet changed a nappy, and is a bit scared of holding her, because baby dd seems so small. (He won't admit it, but I'm pretty sure he thinks that HE works all day, and I stay at home and play with the baby. But that's a completely separate issue.) He would cook Christmas dinner, and I will do everything else.
Do I bite the bullet and invite this girl to stay, or stick to my guns re not having her here?
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to not want a stranger to stay when I have a 7 week old baby
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KiwiKat · 17/12/2010 22:42
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