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My very first AIBU and MIL thread. Is she mad, or AIBU?

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grinningbee Thu 16-Dec-10 09:40:51


A couple of days ago dh, dd, 3 week old ds and myself went shopping with MIL.

We only had the single pram in the car (double is too bulky in the boot if you want shopping too!) and we had forgotten to pick up the sling. No problem, we just carried ds.

I am standing in the Early Learning Centre talking to an assistant, when MIL comes out with a real gem:

"Why don't you let me put ds in my shopping bag. It'll be ok, it has handles"

It's a canvas carrier bag the size and depth of a supermarket carrier bag.

I was totally shock and it really was a situation where I had to pick my jaw back up. And she kept saying it! When I told her I wasn't putting my son in a bag she suggested I put him in the shopping basket under the pram!!!

So, am I BU or is she a little bit conkers?

Oh, and her parting shot to the equally surprised assistant was "well, she (meaning me) is from a different generation to me"

I await your judgement grin

SantasENormaSnob Thu 16-Dec-10 09:42:56

I would say she is slightly more than a bit conkers shock

DancingLola Thu 16-Dec-10 09:43:38

Yanbu! She sounds a bit bonkers to me...

maxpower Thu 16-Dec-10 09:44:05

lol - she probably genuinely thought she was being helpful. many years ago when my brother was a baby (he's 28 now) I remember my dad piling my sister into the end of his old fashioned pram and yes, I did sit in the shopping basket, on a long walk home!

HowToLookGoodGlaikit Thu 16-Dec-10 09:45:48

She sounds insane grin she does realise he is a baby and not a small dog?

grinningbee Thu 16-Dec-10 09:49:09

Ds is most certainly a baby, and not a designer small dog of the bag carrying variety grin

Bless her, she is lovely most of the time, but she honestly couldn't understand why I was not having it.

She does have some very strange ideas...

CrazyChristmasLady Thu 16-Dec-10 09:49:53

YANBU. What a stupid suggestion for a baby that young. Surely they didn't do that 'in their day?'

DS likes getting in the shopping bag, but he is nearly 3, bit of a difference.

grinningbee Thu 16-Dec-10 09:52:30

It wouldn't surprise me if she had done any manner of nutty things when bringing dh up.

Might explain a few things too! gringrin

Lonnie Thu 16-Dec-10 09:55:19

YANBU but grin grin grin

classydiva Thu 16-Dec-10 09:57:23

HA HA HA HA HA HA sorry but its funny if not mental.

wisecamel Thu 16-Dec-10 09:58:04

To be fair though, it was a canvas bag so no danger of suffocation. YAB a teeny bit U if she was only trying to help!

Lancelottie Thu 16-Dec-10 09:58:54

Well, it's ... ingenious. In an improvised, war-spirit sort of way.

<clutches at straws>

allnightlong Thu 16-Dec-10 10:01:20

PMSL she's nuts. Can you imagine the looks you'd have got if you put your newborn son in the basket under the buggy!
You've have been guaranteed a thread on here:
OMG just saw a baby under a buggy should I call 999? grin

QuintessentialShadows Thu 16-Dec-10 10:01:31

she sounds bonkers, but in a non-malicious way.

You should have SEEN the look on my mils face when she came with me and dh shopping, and dh put the carry carseat with 3 week old ds1 in the boot of the car. Her eyes nearly popped out of her head, then she bit her lip, and made a deep breath.
Dh was just joking. He did not close the lid to the boot. She just started laughing hysterically when dh took him out again, a second later.

femalevictormeldrew Thu 16-Dec-10 10:03:41

That just made me snigger. The loon

Poledra Thu 16-Dec-10 10:04:11

Oh, QS, can you imagine what restraint your MIL exercised not to ask what the bloody hell your DH was doing?? grin

OP, your MIL is a bit mad, but quite funny with it.

kreecherlivesupstairs Thu 16-Dec-10 10:11:27

OP, I am smiling at that. What a fantastic solution.
She is clearly bonkers conkers though.

grinningbee Thu 16-Dec-10 10:29:00

Yep, I can just imagine what threads there would be:

I was just in Boots and heard an old lady's bag cry. AIBU to call security?

Wisecamel Hahahahaha at the not suffocating because it was canvas! Not a problem that he would be all squished up then? winkgrin

I shall just add that she is the sort of person who thinks castor oil is the answer for everything. Nuff said really!

SkiingGardeningTwinklyBauble Thu 16-Dec-10 10:33:09

A generational thing definitely! With a blanket in the bottom that would have been a luxury carry cot in their day!

grinningbee Thu 16-Dec-10 11:01:29

I've just had her on the phone for 20 minutes.

She rang to offer me something her neighbour is throwing away

MIL :" I was just wondering what you're putting ds to sleep in as x is throwing something away"

Me (with no intention of accepting anyway) "What is it?"

MIL "It's a pram without wheels and two handles at the side"

Me "so it's a moses basket then. Ds already has one of those, and a cot"

MIL "No no no, it's a pram without wheels - and a lid!"

Oh lord.

Just told dh and from the description, his guess is that it's a barbecue. HAHAHAHAHA!

ChaoticChristmasAngelCrackers Thu 16-Dec-10 11:06:57

ROFLMAO gringringrin

Your mil is bonkers but she does sound lovely smile

QuintessentialShadows Thu 16-Dec-10 11:15:14

put the baby on the barbie, love!


mrsruffallo Thu 16-Dec-10 11:17:21

She sounds hilarious.
I would have loved a bag to safely pop the baby in. Maybe we should design one?

kreecherlivesupstairs Thu 16-Dec-10 11:18:13

Even better, BBQ'd baby ribs.
My friends MiL gave her a toothbrush and a bottle of gin just before her son was born. She asked why and was told to give her nipe-yules (nipples) a brush with gin a couple of times a day to get them ready for breast feeding.
Whenever I speak to her I ask how her nipe-yules are doing. Friends MiL would get on famoulsy with yours.

bumpybecky Thu 16-Dec-10 11:18:34

she sounds great, bonkers but lovely!

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