What's the etiquette on this? I'm at home on maternity leave and being driven nuts by delivery men ringing to ask if they can leave parcels for neighbours. They wake the baby, and then get woken again when the neighbours come round to collect. I take parcels from the house right next door as I know them, we chat and every now and then they appear with cakes for us. But I've started refusing houses further down as I have no idea who lives there, and I really cant be bothered finding a safe place to keep bulky parcels out of the children's way. One delivery man just huffed at me, when I politely declined to take delivery. I always get stuff delivered to dh's office, or make sure I'm in for delivery dates. I've never used the neighbours like this. So AIBU?
We live in quite a nice street and don't want to put a sign up as it seems quite huffy, and despite this post, I am quite a nice neighbour.
pumperspumpkin - if the baby gets woken by a genuine visitor or phone call, at least I get something out of it -a friendly word, a chat, or cup of tea.
I started refusing after I realised one house was ordering major stuff, like washing machines and furniture, and not bothering to be in during delivery as they were assuming I would collect. At one point I had a giant plasma tv in my hall for days. And now its Christmas its getign a bit ridiculous, to be running up and down stairs with a velcro baby, dealing with other people's deliveries.
I took so many parcels in for all my surrounding neighbours last year that the delivery man was thrilled when he had one that was actually for us.
I do get a bit fed up with it especially as I'm trying to work at home and sometimes the parcels are quite big. One of the things delivered was a giant mirror that we ended up with for about three days. I was terrified that DS would accidentally bump into it and break it (yes he is 14 but he doesn't know how long his arms are).
If it was any further away than immediate neighbours then I'd say no as well.
I don't know what the etiquette is but I do value good neighbours, especially when you have children. I don't know where you live but I live in a small village and my neighbours have been worth their weight in gold over the years.
Does it really wake the baby day in day out? If so I guess you have to say no. If you can do it though, you might find one day those neighbours will be happy to do you a favour in some other way.
New baby YANBU. Cover the doorbell and put a note asking for no visitors. Collecting for neighbours you don't know YANBU. You are taking responsibility for parcels that might have been sent to the wrong address or someone who moved. Collecting for the next door neighbour who you know, I would say is OK, it's the sort of nice thing neighbours do.
the worst offenders are a group in a house share who never talk to us and throw loud parties. I dont mind the parties as they are usually on a saturday night, but they arent the type of people who will ever become part of the community, iyswim?