DH has a large extended family, but they seem to be all considered 'close family' (ie 2nd cousins are in this group!).
Yesterday we received a Christmas card and present for our 5 month old DD from one of DH's many cousins - I don't particularly like them as they never seem pleased to see us at family events <yawn> and never seemed to remember who I was for the first however many years of being with DH. When they came to our wedding, they didn't come to the ceremony, just turned up for the evening meal reception and still didn't come and talk to us.
Would it be rude to not get their DD a Christmas present in return? I kind of feel that if we get them something, we'd be obliged to get all the other DCs in the 'family' something too, which will no doubt be expensive. We barely see these people, I've never had a conversation with them (for the above reasons) and tbh just don't feel like we should, just to satisfy some bizarre family obligation.
I like DH's close family (what I would consider close, ie parents, sister, etc) and absolutely adore my 2 Dnephews, but some of his extended family are hard work, like I mentioned. I cannot imagine no-one else has this issue in their family too. I don't think I'm being unreasonable about that part!
But yes, perhaps I can just leave it to DH to decide, and keep out of it.