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to give one of dd's books to her friend for birthay present

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countless Sun 12-Dec-10 14:47:27

got to leave for yet another birthday party and realised we've run out of suitable gifts for a boy. so been looking through some of dd's books..! either that or pick up a box of malteser's en route..which won't be wrapped

dd goes to very fancy nursery school and all other parents are super wealthy so the book maybe least embaressing gift

AIBU to consider? what else can i give? cash in a card would be wrong too!

HowToLookGoodGlaikit Sun 12-Dec-10 14:52:42

Is it in a brand new condition? Could you pop a fiver inside the dustjakcet too?

countless Sun 12-Dec-10 15:00:03

well she has a not now bernard that looks new hmm
i have a feeling parents woulld think it bit vulgar to give money! my standard gift lately has been elc magnifiying kit for only £6

ChippingIn Sun 12-Dec-10 15:02:16

If it looks new go for it! Seems your best acailable option!

ChippingIn Sun 12-Dec-10 15:02:51

acailable?
available!!

Dexterrocks Sun 12-Dec-10 15:06:32

This birthday gift business is a nightmare. We live in a really wealthy area and party gifts can be £15 or more from some people. A new family moved in and my son invited their son to his party. He gave a small Lego set - Perfect! It was so refreshing. I hope everyone follows on.
I think a book that looks new is absolutely fine. I hope dd enjoys the party!

countless Sun 12-Dec-10 15:08:03

ay i never liked that book it's too dark and sad i suppose that's why it has few signs of use

shame that maltesers would probably reaise parental eyebrows my dd would be delighted with whole box all for her grin

princessparty Sun 12-Dec-10 15:44:19

No give him money.he will enjoy spending it more than some crappy second hand book

SoupDragon Sun 12-Dec-10 15:49:25

If it has any signs of use it is not appropriate.

fayc84 Sun 12-Dec-10 15:50:59

I loved Not Now Bernard grin great present. If it looks new you might as well give it as a present, they won't know the difference. I'm giving my brother a couple of comedy DVDs for Christmas that my husband had doubles of - feeling rather tight but they are still in the plastic wrapping and he'll like them so why not?

fayc84 Sun 12-Dec-10 15:52:54

I remember my mum used to keep a box of generic birthday cards and small toys for unexpected party invitations - I think I might have to start this when my LO arrives as hearing from friends who already have kids it sounds like they have pretty active social lives from a young age and it could get pretty stressful!

Onetoomanycornettos Sun 12-Dec-10 18:56:14

My daughter got quite a few lots of money stuck in cards for her birthday from boys, whose mums obviously couldn't think what to get! I didn't mind at all, but you know your social circle...

UniS Sun 12-Dec-10 21:23:17

do you HAVE to give a present at all.

I'm currently wondering how to ask people NOT to give presents at my sons party.

nappyaddict Sun 12-Dec-10 21:27:12

How about asking your DS what charity he would like to support and having a donation box at his party. On the invitation you could put DS has kindly decided he does not want you to bring him a present but to put a donation of your choice into the box for his chosen charity?

Housewife2010 Sun 12-Dec-10 22:58:45

If it looks new, give it. I've done the same. For the future it's worth having a look on thebookpeople.co.uk site. You can buy sets of 10 books for £9.99 - total value of about £60. Then you can put them away & give 1 or 2 individual books as a present for future parties. They sell v good children's books & they all have the rrp on the back so you won't look a cheapskate.

countless Sun 12-Dec-10 23:22:11

thanks for replies, well didn't have nerve to give a 2nd hand book or any non girly paper at hand.
we arrived a little late, party at a massive soft play place. everyone dumped boots in a tub and pressies on table. i was fully prepared to lie (eek i'm not good at lying so was very nervous) and pretend i'd forgotten the card/book voucher but the mum wasn't very friendly and hardly spoke to us..
so now i'm wondering whether to even bother..how awful am i??

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