To hate some of words regularly used on Mumsnet?

[ShanahansRevenge]

I get relly annoyed by people bandying things like "judgey" and "Toxic" around as if they were actual conditions!

Judgey just annoys me because it's kind of coy and littl girly...what's wrng with saying "Judgemental"??

And "Toxic"...

You know...like "Is my Mum Toxic because she has never sent me a christmas card?"

I think it's bollocks...certain words have been adopted and shaped on here for the use and comfort of the community and in the case of "toxic" it's a bit dangerous in my opinion.

People seem to want a diagnosis for other people's behaviour...so they grab words and plonk them onto other people....then in their own minds they can say "Yes...my Mum/Sis/Mil is a pain and makes me angry...but it's because she's toxic...it must be so as everyone on MN says so"

I just saw someone on a thread comment that someone elses husband was being "Passive agressive" because he had plonked a cereal box on her head as a joke. This is another thing people on here are always bandying about.

So AIBU to think there are some people who just look for the bad in others? And who really seem to thrive on labels?

[Mumcentreplus]

YANBU...

[Figgypuddingrollsmuffintop]

YANBU

[ShanahansRevenge]

And? aren't you going to tell me the words I missed?

[Mumcentreplus]

...nah.. I'm sure someone else is compiling a list as we speak...

[thisisyesterday]

judgy because it's quicker to type. it's an abbreviation. does it matter?

toxic... because of the book i presume, toxic parents which describes a certain way of treating people.

passive aggressive, been around for ages, well-known term to describe behaviour

YABU

people using the English language in the correct way... whatever next!

[curlymama]

It worries me that one day I will accidentaly come out with one of those 'reserved for MN words' in RL and out myself!

[Truckulent]

I've never really understood passive aggressive.

[TheYuleLogLady]

not mad keen on cunt but occasionally there is a need for it.

[Alouiseg]

Meh...is that ok?

[BelligerentGhoul]

I hate 'passive aggressive' so yanbu about that - but yabu about 'judgey.' I have no opinion about toxic - isn't it a song?

[JingleBelleDameSansMerci]

Truckulent - me neither. Although I think I might be it sometimes.

[SpringHeeledJack]

judgey stays- because no-one is quite sure how to spell judgmental

[JingleBelleDameSansMerci]

TheYuleLogLady - I'm not mad keen on cunt but occasionally there is a need for it.

Are you trying to tell us you are bi-curious?

[TheYuleLogLady]

never say never Merci

[SpringHeeledJack]

and if anyone doens't understand what passive-aggressive means, they can have an hour long chat with dp when he's in a bit of a mood (for reasonable fee, of course)

they will leave with a gcse practical equivalent on PA. Two hours counts as a masterclass

[JingleBelleDameSansMerci]

I think my stepfather is passive aggressive (or he's just a fucking irritating martyr) but I've never been sure. I'm not concerned enough to actually look it up and check though

[SpringHeeledJack]

I hate hate hate sense of entitlement, though it seems it's fallen a bit out of favour. Last summer you could guarantee at least three an hour

[Thingumy]

YANBU

I fucking hate the 'passive agrressive' label,most sound like my dh when he is being an arse and in a bad mood.

Do women on here ever get in a mood and act like arses?

[ShanahansRevenge]

That's right beertricks...and it's usually used in the wrong context. This is yesterday.my grudge is really with people using them in incorrect circumstances.

[ShanahansRevenge]

Ooh...Sprinkeeledjack yes!

"Sense of entitlement anyone?"

And CRAP like that in response to a perfectly reasonable peeve.

[JingleBelleDameSansMerci]

Thingumy, I'm permanently moody and I'm definitely an arse. I'm a woman btw.

[ShanahansRevenge]

This kind of rubbish makes half the site look like they read loads of rubbishy self-help books.

[NemoTheRedNosedFish]

toxic imo is used to describe someone who poisons their relationships with everyone, someone who is literally toxic to others.


If you'd met my mother you'd understand - she didn't want to be single so she ignored the fact my stepdad was after shagging me.

But of course it's all bollocks isn't it.