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dippymare Wed 08-Dec-10 19:33:14

waiting in the cold...

Had a moan at kid's teacher today becos they are always out 5-10 mins late and I don't relish standing in the biting wind waiting for them while they are in the warm. I understand that sometimes we're all a bit late but.. this one keeps the kids back deliberately as punishment. I just don't think this is fair on mums/dads/carers/younger siblings especially when there's never any warning and we have places to be.
Moan over, I know there's worse things but it gets on my t**s.

curlymama Wed 08-Dec-10 19:35:31


I hate it when they do this, and it is a regular thing. Apart from the fact that it's freezing, does it ever cross their minds that the children sometimes have other classes or clubs to get to?

LynetteScavo Wed 08-Dec-10 19:36:18

keeping kids in late as a punishment is crap (the only teacher I've know do it had come from Sweden and thought we were idiots not to dress appropriately for collecting our children)
My DD is always out late because the teacher finishes reading the story she started. I forgive her for that.

GiddyPickle Wed 08-Dec-10 19:40:44

YANBU it drives me nuts as well. Both kids are supposed to finish at the same time but DD is always about 10 minutes late out which doesn't sound too bad but it is FREEZING to be standing in a playground with the wind whipping round you.

And then she forgets half her stuff and has to go back to rumage for it for another 10 minutes or so (but that one's her fault I guess)

cubbie Wed 08-Dec-10 19:50:33

I completely agree and I'm a teacher.

I hate when teachers are late getting their classes out on a regular basis, it's ok if it's once in a blue moon - that can happen to anyone - but I think it's totally unacceptable if it's a regular occurrence.

I know teachers whose children are always out late, not because they're being punished, which by the way, is absolutely unacceptable. They're just disorganised!

It's the same at break or lunchtime. the way I see it, it's my break etc too and I wnat to make the most of it.

I try to have my class tidied up, coats etc and ready to go on the bell. It's bad manners to keep parents/carers etc waiting. As some of you have said, they have places to go, buses/trains to catch etc!

I'm often the first in the staffroom at break, but then, I'm usually the first one up when the bell goes!

mochalady Wed 08-Dec-10 19:53:26

Sometimes though it cannot be helped - children can be incredibly slow at times when they want to be! The teacher is probably getting equally stressed knowing that they are running late and can see the parents outside, but can't do much about it if children aren't getting things ready quickly or listening to important messages! But I agree - as a punishment it seems a bit daft, not really the right time of day!

mummytoatribe Wed 08-Dec-10 19:55:13

Sooooooo NBU!

There are a couple of teachers who's classes are always late out and as it is a smallish school you end up with them at some point! We have one atm, which means that I turn up at the last minute so the youngest are the last ones in their class to be collected and we still have to stand there for ages for the dd2.

Really pees me off!

ilsalund Wed 08-Dec-10 20:06:30


I'm a teacher and always get my class out on time. The teacher next door to me is always late - but I'm the one the parents moan to (because when she released her class she doesn't come outside) whereas I usually pop outside to make sure my class are leaving in an orderly manner

I've tried breezing past her room 5 minutes before the end of the day and saying things like 'it's cold outside, make sure you are all ready on time as your mums/dads etc look as if they are freezing' but it makes no difference.

cat64 Wed 08-Dec-10 20:07:38

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onceamai Wed 08-Dec-10 20:19:27

Ours were usually out within 5 minutes of the bell. What was extremely irritating was when one particular teacher thought it acceptable to keep them behind for 10 minutes because one child was talking. Totally discourteous to the parents who had turned up on time and disrupted the collection of my older child from a different school. First time I had a quiet word, 2nd time I telephoned the office the following day, 3rd time I marched into the classroom and said DD had to leave because we had to collect DS on time from his school.

Following day wrote formal letter to the HT outlining the above and stating I didn't mind if the class was kept late but that I hoped she would agree that it would be courteous to the school community to give notice in future. She was on the phone within minutes to apologise and asked me to let her know if there were any similar problems in the future.

MJB66 Wed 08-Dec-10 20:36:45

I have 4 classes to pick up from at the same school, they are mostley late out of class.

What gets me tho, is that, at our school, there is more often than not a note in the weekley news letter, basically asking parents to pull their finger out and be on time!!!
thats dropping off or collecting!!

GiddyPickle Wed 08-Dec-10 21:23:45

It is always the same teachers who do it. My two had the same Year 1 teacher and she was the worst. Every class that got her every year knew they were in for an extra 15 minutes on their day.
Having been into help it is obvious the reason for this - she is just hugely disorganised. They were always late out to lunch as well, she can never find anything in the classroom (I was often sent to search for spelling books from the bomb site that was her desk). She was a lovely person and good with the kids but when it came to time keeping or paper work or generally having a vague idea where anything was or what was happening next she was hopeless.

AuntiePickleBottom Wed 08-Dec-10 21:26:22

what narks me off is that i am allways the 1st parent out side the door waiting , yet my son is one of the last to come out.

cat64 Wed 08-Dec-10 21:37:18

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GiddyPickle Wed 08-Dec-10 22:06:00

cat64 - see that's where they get you though. The only day I was ever late for pick up (5 minutes late for official pick up time so 10 minutes early by teacher's usual standards!) my little DD was stood all alone waiting for me with her hat pulled down looking cold

PaisleyLeaf Wed 08-Dec-10 22:10:09

Some of us need to get to another school 15mins after that one, or swimming lesson etc

I can't help but feel it's sometimes a bit of a power tip thing from the teacher.

color Wed 08-Dec-10 22:15:23

YANBU = I used to have to get from one school to another to pick up mine and for a year it was always stressful.

sufferingbabyfever Wed 08-Dec-10 22:16:32

I find the power trip comment amusing. As a teacher why would you go out of your way to add time onto your working day?

Like if you were an asda checkout person. Im going to scan this stuff really slowly as a power trip.

unfitmother Wed 08-Dec-10 22:16:38

It pisses me off too. Another good reason why I make DH pick them up!

piprabbit Wed 08-Dec-10 22:24:38

AuntiePB, I'd love to know how to get DD trained to be first in the queue to leave. She's always pottering around at the back while I try to retain some semblance of control of small DS in the playground.

woahwoah Wed 08-Dec-10 22:24:57

I've always tried to get the children out on time - not always easy when they are little ones and have coats, gloves, bags etc to organise, but I try, because i know it is frustrating for parents who have to be elsewhere.

However, there is one parent who is ALWAYS late, and bowls in after everyone else has gone and I have brought her child back in from the doorway, and says 'Why do you always let them out early?' She never apologises for being late, doesn't seem to notice that everyone else has been and gone (!), and seems to think I have done this to annoy / inconvenience her!

So it works both ways!

PaisleyLeaf Wed 08-Dec-10 22:27:15

SBF, It's not adding to her day. It's not as though the teacher would otherwise be screeching out of the carpark at 3.20.

KangarooCaught Wed 08-Dec-10 22:34:47

We're instructed to teach up to the bell, however, with little ones part of their learning is negotiating getting ready and organised which should take place in lesson time imo.

However, it doesn't particularly bother me, either way.

butternutsquashed Wed 08-Dec-10 22:36:04

Mt DS school has assembly at the end of the day. They were 10 minutes late yesterday when it was -10. I made the other Mums laugh as I had a major swearing outburst about it. Never heard to swear in playground before. The head at DS school basically likes the sound of her own voice and they are out late almost every day, if your late their out on time!

GiddyPickle Wed 08-Dec-10 22:43:16

Kangaroo - I know that is true but I should start my own AIBU called: "

AIBU to ask teachers to please give up on this notion that one day my children will learn to be independently responsible for their own homework, glove relocation and remembering costumes for the school play? Just give me the letters - don't bother telling them they'll never pass it on. Let me look for the glove - it could be stapled to their nose and they won't find it and please just concede that despite 7+ years of schooling where independence is taught everyday not one of them is any closer to mastering it and frankly all it does is delay the inevitable of getting me to remember it / locate it / fill it in and I am happily resigned to doing this forever more so don't bother keeping them back for 15 minutes to do up their own zip - I'll do it when they get outside as I will have to anyway when they cross thread the thing and get their fingers jammed"

That's would be quiite a long title though and I am guessing the answer would be that IABU.

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