Not really an AIBU because I haven't decided what to do yet. I just want you to tell me what is reasonable, please!
DD (5) has been really sick since last week with a throat infection. First noticed that she was coming down with something after school on Wednesday, so kept her off on Thursday and took her to the gp on Friday because temperature was sky high and not responding to calpol etc. She was also listless, miserable and totally uninterested in anything but sleep. GP prescribed antibiotics, which she started that day, but she continued to be quite ill over the weekend, and I kept her at home today as she still had a fever in the morning.
Anyway, since this afternoon, her temperature has come back down again (without calpol 
) and she has been much more like her normal self. She is absolutely desperate to go to school tomorrow, and in many ways, I think she is fine. However, she has barely eaten anything since Wednesday lunchtime, she is physically exhausted, and she has a very persistent and painful cough which is interfering with her sleep. She can tolerate the cough most of the time, but has been very distressed on a few occasions today when it has really hurt her throat.
My real instinct is to keep her home for another day, but she is begging me to let her go in, and I am wavering because this evening, she really did seem like she was back to her old self again and she'd probably be fine in school as well. DH says (rightly) that the cough will probably go on for a good few days yet, and she might as well cough in school as here at home. GP says that she shouldn't be contagious after a few days of the antibiotics.
I really don't want to keep her at home unnecessarily, but I don't like to think of her going in when she isn't quite right, and I'm not sure if it's fair for the teacher to have to deal with a child who is less than 100%. I'm not feeling well myself atm either, so head is rather foggy and I just can't decide what to do. So please, if she wakes up in the morning and seems OK, WWYD?
AIBU?
Would it be reasonable to keep dd home again tomorrow? Or should I send her to school?
magicmummy1 · 06/12/2010 22:49
I would keep her at home another day and try and make sure she eats and drinks normally. You know yourself if you have been ill it is one thing thinking you are OK but once you try and do anything you feel rubbish again. A day feeling better at home and eating normally will do her more good. She's only a wee one and can't see she would exactly miss anything crucial to her education! Maybe see how her concentration is - do some simple puzzles online and send her in on Wednesday. Hope she's feeling better - it will be a weight off your mind for sure - it's horrid when they are ill! 
loubielou31
You made me lol, a couple of weeks ago I went up to DS's teacher (first time, ever) and she visibly winced at my approach. A little hurt I explained DS had a fairly bad puncture wound that seemed healed - but if he knocked it or fell over and it bled not to panic, thinking it was a new injury!
I found out later two parents had collared her that morning to say that dc "had been sick through the night but was alright this morning" 
- needless to say 80% of the class subsequently had it. 
I could tell this wasn't one of those cases really or you wouldn't have even asked the question, it was just one of my pet hates. I hope that you are both feeling much better in the morning. 
Thanks loubielou31. I can understand why it would be a pet hate! What I can't understand is why any parent would want to send their child to school when they're clearly not well enough!
I think people forget that they seem fine as they've been at home with mum for days resting. They're fine at home as they're not doing much but being in the house but going to school is very different. They might not be well enough to have an active normal day at school even though they seem fine at home.
"She is absolutely desperate to go to school tomorrow, and in many ways, I think she is fine. However, she has barely eaten anything since Wednesday lunchtime, she is physically exhausted, and she has a very persistent and painful cough which is interfering with her sleep."
I can't see why anyone would send a child to school like that even if they're begging. In what ways is she fine if she's exhausted, not eaten and has a painful cough and interupted sleep 
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