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Would it be reasonable to keep dd home again tomorrow? Or should I send her to school?

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magicmummy1 Mon 06-Dec-10 22:49:08

Not really an AIBU because I haven't decided what to do yet. I just want you to tell me what is reasonable, please!

DD (5) has been really sick since last week with a throat infection. First noticed that she was coming down with something after school on Wednesday, so kept her off on Thursday and took her to the gp on Friday because temperature was sky high and not responding to calpol etc. She was also listless, miserable and totally uninterested in anything but sleep. GP prescribed antibiotics, which she started that day, but she continued to be quite ill over the weekend, and I kept her at home today as she still had a fever in the morning.

Anyway, since this afternoon, her temperature has come back down again (without calpol grin) and she has been much more like her normal self. She is absolutely desperate to go to school tomorrow, and in many ways, I think she is fine. However, she has barely eaten anything since Wednesday lunchtime, she is physically exhausted, and she has a very persistent and painful cough which is interfering with her sleep. She can tolerate the cough most of the time, but has been very distressed on a few occasions today when it has really hurt her throat.

My real instinct is to keep her home for another day, but she is begging me to let her go in, and I am wavering because this evening, she really did seem like she was back to her old self again and she'd probably be fine in school as well. DH says (rightly) that the cough will probably go on for a good few days yet, and she might as well cough in school as here at home. GP says that she shouldn't be contagious after a few days of the antibiotics.

I really don't want to keep her at home unnecessarily, but I don't like to think of her going in when she isn't quite right, and I'm not sure if it's fair for the teacher to have to deal with a child who is less than 100%. I'm not feeling well myself atm either, so head is rather foggy and I just can't decide what to do. So please, if she wakes up in the morning and seems OK, WWYD?

DooinMeCleanin Mon 06-Dec-10 22:51:28

Keep her home.

Alambil Mon 06-Dec-10 22:52:29

I'd keep her off and make her rest one more day; hacking cough, weak from little food and restless sleep isn't a good combination to aid learning

tomhardyismydh Mon 06-Dec-10 22:54:29

sounds like she is well on the mend as you know will probably be much better tomorrow.

my dd has had a cough for over a week that buggs the hell out of me all night but she wakes refreshed.

anyway I tend to wait and see if she wakes up on time and seems well, if so send her in. If not keep her off. even if she wakes late and is fine I tend to send her in with an appologies for being late wanted to make sure she ate a good breakfast and was 100% before sending her in.

let school know if she isnt well at all to call you to pick her up. sounds like you could do with a few hours to concenrtate on getting your self well also.

Flisspaps Mon 06-Dec-10 22:57:01

If she seems ok in the morning and is begging to go in, then let her go in - you can always get her later on if needs be.

PotPourri Mon 06-Dec-10 22:57:33

Keep her home. Usually should be 48 hours from when the fever goes. Otherwise you'll pass the virus on to other children - not nice. Get a nice video out and have a girlie day together

loubielou31 Mon 06-Dec-10 23:01:56

I've lost count of the number of children who are clearly very ill being dropped off at school by their mothers who "just want a little word because DC is not very well but they really wanted to come" (usually mind you they've been throwing up all night but "seem fine now!") now I am pleased that my pupils loved being in my class but FFS who is in charge in their house. If you think they are ill then keep them at home. I really don't want the germs, and they might look perkyish at five past nine but by morning break the Calpol has worn off and they start looking decidely peaky.

mrsfollowill Mon 06-Dec-10 23:02:23

I would keep her at home another day and try and make sure she eats and drinks normally. You know yourself if you have been ill it is one thing thinking you are OK but once you try and do anything you feel rubbish again. A day feeling better at home and eating normally will do her more good. She's only a wee one and can't see she would exactly miss anything crucial to her education! Maybe see how her concentration is - do some simple puzzles online and send her in on Wednesday. Hope she's feeling better - it will be a weight off your mind for sure - it's horrid when they are ill! smile

loubielou31 Mon 06-Dec-10 23:02:38

Sorry that was a bit of a rant. blush

DanceInTheDark Mon 06-Dec-10 23:05:31

Keep her off but see how she is and maybe send her in for an hour at the end of the day if school agree to see how she gets on.

DaisySteiner Mon 06-Dec-10 23:10:11

See how she is in the morning. If she's keen, send her in but be prepared to pick her up if she relapses.

magicmummy1 Mon 06-Dec-10 23:12:40

Thanks everyone. Looks like the general consensus is to keep her at home for another day, which is what my gut was telling me anyway. If she's well all morning, I might see if the school would let her go in for the afternoon.

Just for the record, loubielou31, I am honestly not one of those mothers! I would never send dd in to school if she was genuinely ill and needed pumping up with calpol before she got there. Nor would I send her in if I thought that she was going to spread her germs around to other kids, but the doctor did say that she wouldn't pass anything on after 48 hours on antibiotics. In this particular situation, she is basically well again - just washed out and has a persistent cough that will probably hang around for the next week or so. I don't think it's quite the same.

TheHoneydragonsInTheIvy Mon 06-Dec-10 23:20:01


You made me lol, a couple of weeks ago I went up to DS's teacher (first time, ever) and she visibly winced at my approach. A little hurt I explained DS had a fairly bad puncture wound that seemed healed - but if he knocked it or fell over and it bled not to panic, thinking it was a new injury!

I found out later two parents had collared her that morning to say that dc "had been sick through the night but was alright this morning" sad - needless to say 80% of the class subsequently had it. hmm

loubielou31 Mon 06-Dec-10 23:31:38

I could tell this wasn't one of those cases really or you wouldn't have even asked the question, it was just one of my pet hates. I hope that you are both feeling much better in the morning. smile

magicmummy1 Mon 06-Dec-10 23:34:35

Thanks loubielou31. I can understand why it would be a pet hate! What I can't understand is why any parent would want to send their child to school when they're clearly not well enough! hmm

elphabadefiesgravity Mon 06-Dec-10 23:37:36

I'd keep her off another day.

I did send ds in today dosed up woth Calpol but only after a desperate phonecall from the school as they had loads of kids off and the Xmas play today. I took him in after lunch as he seemed better and he held up.

A1980 Tue 07-Dec-10 00:49:57

I think people forget that they seem fine as they've been at home with mum for days resting. They're fine at home as they're not doing much but being in the house but going to school is very different. They might not be well enough to have an active normal day at school even though they seem fine at home.

"She is absolutely desperate to go to school tomorrow, and in many ways, I think she is fine. However, she has barely eaten anything since Wednesday lunchtime, she is physically exhausted, and she has a very persistent and painful cough which is interfering with her sleep."

I can't see why anyone would send a child to school like that even if they're begging. In what ways is she fine if she's exhausted, not eaten and has a painful cough and interupted sleep confused

magicmummy1 Tue 07-Dec-10 01:41:01

A1980, I see where you're coming from, but I know my own child, and I know she'd have coped in school if I'd decided to send her. I just wasn't entirely comfortable with the idea because I felt she needed more rest. Anyway, I have decided now not to send her.

By "fine" I mean that her temperature is back to normal, and she spent the day bouncing around like her normal energetic self. She isn't acting exhausted at all, but I know she must be. Ironically, I think she copes better with mild illness in school than she does at home - more distractions, maybe!

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