DH and I both work - I do a part time (but professional career part time so not that easy for me to work "fixed" hours). DH works the full week. On my days not in the office I do pretty much everything else....
On my days when I work - DH drops DS at the childminder (DS then goes to school) - I take DD to nursery. I then pick everyone up and take them home, do tea, bath and bed. DH rarely gets home before 7.30. I then cook our dinner. As DH's career has got further up the ladder this seems to be the place we've got to. DH does try to get home early one day and then works in the evenings but otherwise even things like illness leave me trying to grapple childcare and work together from home.
On the odd day, the grandparents look after the kids. My in-laws e-mailed me over the weekend to say that when they look after the kids on thursday they'd have to leave by a certain time meaning yet again I'd have to leave work by a certain time (not DH) . Usually when they are there, which will be a day I work, I leave out the lunch, kids lunch and tea and get something arranged for dinner which I cook - DH doesn't give it a second thought.
It really really riled me that they chose to e-mail me only - not DH and that they are expecting me to get home from work to relieve them. This isn't about them and the childcare - they love to do it and I'm very very grateful for what they do and they are fantastic with our kids - it's about their attitude of DH's job isn't to deal with childcare, it's yours so we'll contact you.
For whatever reason I was livid about it and did go over the top in my reaction (to DH) . All DH could say was " oh well I think I've got a day off that day so it doesn't matter"....IT DOES !!!....
What's your view on my situation - Unreasonable reaction and pull yourself together ? Maybe I'm mad with DH more than anything ? GRRRRRRRRRRRRR
DH and I often get to this point of me feeling undervalued and the world revolving around his job. I really don't want to give up but I think I'm getting a bee in my bonnet about it all.....
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herbgarden · 06/12/2010 08:39
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