to mark my spot with the bin?(21 Posts)
Im 8 months pregnant with twins, and due to have a c-section in a week and a half. We live on the outskirts of a city, on a street where there isn't enough parking for all of the cars, and so we often have to park round the corner on other streets - normally not a problem and par for the course.
However, with all of the snow, I wondered what you thought about leaving my bin in the space outside my house when we go out in the car tomorrow. The reason being that it took my hubbie 40 mins to dig the snow out enough so we could drive the car out (first time all week - stir crazy!), and we went out today and someone parked there, so when we came back we parked in another spot, still near the flat, but as a precaution hubbie spent another 40 mins digging out the snow. This is all with a shovel borrowed from neighbours - they are like gold dust here!
Im mainly worried about going into labour in the middle of the night and not being able to get the car out, having tried this afternoon to get it out of the 'new spot' and ending up having two kind passers by push me out.
I need to go out tomorrow and get groceries, we have virtually nothing in the house as the tesco delivery couldnt come this week, and was thinking of leaving our bin in the space with a note attached explaining why. What do you think? I know its unreasonable normally to try and do this, but am so worried about what would happen if I went into labour unexpectedly......
under the circumstances, I probably would.
Although if you had to, you could park elsewhere and if you go into labour your husband could run and fetch the car.
To be fair you aren't allowed to commandere a space unless you have a dropped kirb. Anybody could move the bin and you wouldnt really be in a position to say anything about it.
You don't own the space unfortunately.
but if your having a C sectionin a week and half, why you worrying about labour? I personally wouldnt, but then I hate a fuss when im pregnant.
If your cars stuck and your in labour call an ambalance, might be best idea as your having 2 of them.
Get DH to bring round car to the front of the house.
Get a taxi if you need to get to the hospital and if it is an emergency call an ambulance.
You will stress yourself out for no good reason worrying about parking issues - just eliminate the thought of being house bound. Focus on the birth not on a parking space.
Well I don't think YABU to do this in the circumstances even though you cannot really save any space on a public road but I agree with scrurry that it will probably cause more stress than it saves.
There is nothing at all to stop someone moving your bin and taking the space. With parking at such a premium they almost certainly will depsite the note so then you will be upset or hurt at somebody ignoring the request and still have the worry about parking.
Decide on a plan B incase the car is out of action like calling an ambulance or a taxi or having a couple of friends on stand by.
Hmmmm. Good point about him bringing the car round, but worried as today I parked in a different spot to the one we cleared yesterday and then later I couldnt get out of it again without two passers by pushing me out. That spot hadnt looked too bad when we parked in it.
I know Im probably worrying over nothing, hopefully will just get to the section date and it will all be straightforward.
The other thing which also throws a spanner in the works is that I have a toddler who we will need to drop at a friend's house on the way to the hospital, and guessing an ambulance wouldnt be too keen on being treated like a taxi service..... We dont have anyone nearby who could come over, and friend has own children so she couldnt come here.
I know we dont have any rights over the space, wondering if we will pee the neighbours off by trying to keep it while we nip out tomorrow......
Not 100% sure why Im getting my knickers in such a twist about this, maybe its just anxiety about the fact two babies are arriving soon!
yab a bit u as you don't own the road/space and anyone who pays their road tax has the right to park there.
I think someone else probably will park there anyway and that will just annoy you. If you're going to need an ambulance then there won't be time to drop toddler off? A taxi or waiting for DH will probably be fine?
just call a taxi, drop off DD and then head to hospital, if car is stuck
Thats an excellent point about getting annoyed if someone else parks there, it probably would rankle. Stupidly I hadnt really thought about taxi, guess that would work as long as not right in middle of night.
I think Im a bit anxious because the consultant at the hospital has given virtually no information about what I should do if I do go into labour - get here straight away is basically all she has said, so thinking need to get straight in car, drop off toddler en route and get to hospital. Am having last antenatal appointment next week so will ask for some more detail about timescales etc.
Its probably me worrying about nothing, I do like to have things straight in my mind though
YABibitU, but I can totally understand why, and why you are generally anxious at this point.
Firstly, you could do what you've suggested, and hope that anyone trying to move the bin to park would not do so when they read your note (I wouldn't, and I'm quite ruthless about parking ).
If you happen to know the owner of one of the cars parked adjoining yours, could you ask them to park very inconsiderately whilst your gone - ie taking up the two spaces? I'm assuming you must have quite a bit of snow, and therefore most people won't be going anywhere. This depends on you knowing your neighbours, obviously, and them not minding moving their car twice for you!
Also, presumably if they're doing a section, then they'll be doing it at 38 odd weeks? They (the royal hospital "they" ) usually time it so that you're unlikely to go into natural labour.
Thanks for being so understanding everyone, I know it is a bit unreasonable to do it, but I think I feel a bit like a ticking time bomb just now
Peeringintothevoid, thats a brilliant idea about asking the neighbour to park a wee bit inconsiderately! As it happens the person who is parked there tonight is someone we do speak to, and could ask them to do that while we go shopping, although they may well need to go out at the same time.
Thanks for all the good ideas - my own brain is like total mush just now, so all these ideas are really helping. Feel a bit better about it all just now. Am going to try and relax, and cross legs firmly!
sorry, cross posted there, yes, its scheduled for just after 38 weeks, so I am unlikely to start myself before then, but am feeling about as big as a house and wondering just how long my body can keep going with these two wrigglers in there!
I can understand perfectly why you would want to, and I think YANBU in your circumstances. However, the chances are someone will just move you bin out of the way and nab the space.
Try not to get too stressed about it. I took taxis to the hospital both times I was in labour (DH hadn't passed his test at the time) and it was absolutely fine. You can always call an ambulance too.
I'm glad that was a good idea! I'm sure if you explained the situation then your neighbour wouldn't mind not going out at the same time.
I'd say have plans a, b & c - get your neighbour to block the spaces, but if you come back and find that someone has squished a little smart car or something in the space, then can DH park elsewhere and bring the car round if needed? Have taxi numbers on hand - you could take one to hospital whilst DH follows via friend's house in another taxi, eg.? Contingency plans will make you feel like you can handle an unlikely event, hopefully.
Not about your bin, but my toddler was 22 months old when my twins were born and I enjoyed every minute. It's so so lovley having twins, they really are entertaining and still make me laugh every day now 16 years on. They soon became a little unit of three and often socialise together a lot, which I really love.
I went into labour, DH went to get my mum to look after DS1 (and some petrol - fairly useful!) and then we drove to the hospital discussing baby names!
I truly hope it goes well, just get a good routine that suits you; I would recommend feeding them together and trying to get them to sleep together so you can spend time with your eldest.
Good luck with the birth and everything! xx
where are you going tomorrow? might be worth getting the taxi to there and back, rather than risking your space?
thank you LeChatRouge, its so nice to hear from people who have been here and enjoyed having them so close together, I have been getting lots of people reacting with sharp intakes of breath & basically asking how we'll cope. I feel quite optimistic really, know will be hard work but looking forward to lots of fun times too!
Whiteflame, good idea about getting a taxi tomorrow, the nearest supermarket isnt too far away, so wouldnt break the bank. Will ask dh what he thinks in the morning.
You're right about having plans peering, it does make me feel like we could handle any eventuality. Feel much more sorted now, MNers bit of a godsend!
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