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To think he is out of order

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Ray81 Sat 04-Dec-10 12:30:05

Ok so my grandad lives with my aunt and she looks after him 24-7. i go and look after him sometimes so she can go away for the weekend. this is one of those weekends.

She is currently getting divorced from her DH and as a result she has the loft room and the door is locked and he is in the spare room. So i slept in the loft room last night.
He comes home this morning with a friend (both large men) and tells me he is getting a lock smith and moving himself back into the loft and moving her stuff out.

I phoned my aunt and a she is away there is nothing she can do other then call the police becaus i was shaking and rather scared of having these 2 men, the police arrive and advise there is nothing they can do is domestic other then ask him nicely if i can use the room as it is the only room where me and DD1 and DD2 can fit in the bed together (it is a big round bed in that room). They asked him and he refused even though he isnt going to be here tonight as he is going away. As a result i am now going to have to sleep in the spare room and DD1 who is 8 will have to stay with her grandparents or sleep on the floor,not a huge deal realy it wont hurt her but not nice either.

So AIBU to think he is out of order for waiting til i am here to do this?

I understand it is his house as well as my aunts and that he does have every right to be up in that room but surely he could have waited til she was here rather then put me in this bloody awful bloody position.

have spent the last hr crying because i felt so scared there for a while.

He is also currently upstairs slamming doors and scaring th shit out of me.

Jaybird37 Sat 04-Dec-10 12:39:57

Oh Ray, what a terrible position to be in. Can social services help - because you are caring for your grandfather and therefore have to be there?

kokolp Sat 04-Dec-10 12:41:43

If its his house I don't think you can do anything

Tortington Sat 04-Dec-10 12:42:25

dies your GF have a mental illness? i wouldn't stay and be scared. i'd leave, esp if my daughter ewas there.

bigchris Sat 04-Dec-10 12:44:15

Could you take your grandad home with you? What about your parents could they help out? Or siblings? Seems a bit much for your aunt to go away and leave your grandad when the situation is so volatile

MrManager Sat 04-Dec-10 14:21:45

Is he out of order for having full roam of his house? Or out of order for scaring you? What's the question?

Serendippy Sat 04-Dec-10 14:24:51

He is out of order for waiting til you were there, knowing you would feel vulnerable with your DCs. However he is within his rights and, crap though it is, there is nothing you can do about it.

Was it you who had trouble getting out because of the snow? If that is the case, you obviously can't bring your GF home with you. Hope someone can offer good advice.

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