to do a rota for housework

[AuntiePickleBottom]

i am sooo pissed off it unreal, i have been doing alot of overtime atm so we can do christmas without going into debt.

however my dp hasn't done any housework and i am sick of coming home to a tip, dirty dishes left in the sink when the dishwasher is right by there, no beds made, no washing done.

he can't even get the school run right, ds has a bath every morning as he wets the bed but found out today that he hasn't had a bath since Monday.

[Tortington]

it would be better as a discussion

its a fake discussion granted = but its better than acting like the mother of a teenage son.

[Dexterrocks]

I used to have this problem. I found if I told or asked my dh to do something I had no hope - he seemed to object massively to this (not verbally but just never did it.)
Instead I wrote a list of all the jobs that needed done and asked him to tick off the ones he did. It did the trick. He could see how much needed done but could choose from the list which jobs he would do. In the end he did far more than I would have asked him to do.

[SlightlyJaded]

But ideally your discussion could lead to a rota. I love a rota, me

There is not much more satisfying than tapping a freshly sharpened pencil against a nice white a4 rota on the wall whilst raising one eyebrow at the stack of dishes.

But Custardo does have a point inasmuch as your DH is (presumably) older than 10

But if you can get him to 'sign up' to one, it does make things easier in many ways. Far less ambiguity and quiet seething.

[natandchris10]

i did a rota a while back...

They dont understand it.. apparently 50/50 is still unfair..

Iv learnt to lump it or leave him..

[AgentZigzag]

The word rota reminds me of a student house, but then your DH is behaving like a student.

Not giving your DS a bath is unacceptable, and 'not seeing' the mess isn't a valid excuse to not clear up (if he's using that one).

How does he react when you bring the subject up?

[AuntiePickleBottom]

will be bring it up tonight, it's only the basic that i want him to do.

[Tortington]

yes sorry, the discussion should be about the rota

"right, the kitchen sides need cleaning daily, the evening meal, the washing up - lets divvy up who is going to do what"

for example

[enjolraslove]

i'm with dexter on the list. I did this when we first had an actual house (as opposed to one room) to take care of. no assigning of jobs but just broke it down by day and then dp could see what needed to be done before we crashed out and occasionally did parts of it.
it also helped when i was still doing stuff in the evening and dp wanted a 'fun' evening, i could just point to the list and say ' is it all done?' Yes, passive aggressive is my default setting with regards to housework.