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To expect parents to dress their children as warmly as themselves

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scruffybird Thu 02-Dec-10 12:49:47

I am fed up of seeing children in this freezing weather without gloves, hat and scavres and then you look at the parent in their warm hat and gloves etc.
It's boardering on child neglect.

tinierclanger Thu 02-Dec-10 12:51:24

<sigh again>

I put a hat on DS. He takes it off. I cannot physically get gloves on him. What do you suggest?

My assumption is, if he's really cold, he will accept the hat. I don't think he will actually come to any harm as a result of being cold. He'll either give in and put the hat on, or want to go home.

SoupDragon Thu 02-Dec-10 12:53:10


Perhaps it's because the parents don't remove all the hats etc and throw them on the floor.

Lizcat Thu 02-Dec-10 12:53:58

Like tinierclanger hat on thrown off, glove on thrown off. Claims gloves and hat hurt fingers and head both are ample size. DH never wears any of these things either - sighs alot.

SoupDragon Thu 02-Dec-10 12:54:05

personally, i like to send my children out into the 2 feet of snow wearing nothing but swim things and a smile. It's character building.

nellieisstilltired Thu 02-Dec-10 12:54:10

would it be neglect to superglue hats and mittens on to child?

FanjoForTheMincePies Thu 02-Dec-10 12:54:28

my DD hardly feels the cold, i sleep under two duvets and she doesn't even want one. she won't keep hat or gloves on either!

DooinMeCleanin Thu 02-Dec-10 12:54:48

Didn't we have this thread yesterday? It coz we are British innit? Move to Germany if it bothers you that much. Their toddlers keep their clothes on, apparently.

DooinMeCleanin Thu 02-Dec-10 12:56:15

LizCat dd2 also says that about gloves. And she claims her loosly tied scarf chokes her. She likes her hat though.

Squitten Thu 02-Dec-10 12:57:26

YABU - I don't think anyone voluntarily wants their kids to go out with no warm clothes on but sometimes the children won't cooperate!

Thankfully, this year DS seems to have embraced the idea of warm clothes so we're alright but last winter and summer, DS absolutely refused to wear hats or hoods and threw away his gloves. Short of stapling it to him, what would you have suggested?

prettyfly1 Thu 02-Dec-10 12:57:31

(pretty heaves a sigh of frustration) Hat off constantly. REFUSES to wear socks, hates coat, HOWLS at gloves. I fight the socks and coat but seriously after the twentieth attempt to put hat back on and now running seriously late to get to school, work, anywhere, ever I give up. Do you actually HAVE children? Or were yours that rare breed of perfect child that never inconvenienced you with such irritating behaviour?

prettyfly1 Thu 02-Dec-10 12:58:16

ps. Sending them outside in swimwear. LOL.

scruffybird Thu 02-Dec-10 12:59:06

Not always the case. The children I'm refering to are not toddlers and when I asked where their gloves were they said they did not have any.

kreecherlivesupstairs Thu 02-Dec-10 13:01:48

DD is one of those children to whom you refer. She does have the full snow gear (right down to skiing gloves and salopettes). She wears them to school in the morning but yesterday, she came out in her vest with the rest of her clothes in her schoolbag.

DooinMeCleanin Thu 02-Dec-10 13:02:00

Perhaps they have lost the third set of the yea and the parents are refusing to buy more until they at least attempt to find some of the old ones

<speaks from bitter, expensive experience>

prettyfly1 Thu 02-Dec-10 13:02:56

My five year old frequently tells people he can fly. If you had asked him yesterday he would have told you he didnt have gloves either - its because he has lost five pairs already this year. There are of course irresponsible people who send their children out poorly dressed but the fact is if the kids have coats, clean clothes, etc chances are they have either lost them or refused to wear em. If the children in question are persistently dirty, undernourished or innappropriately attired, then you have a point. Failing that YA still BU.

NonnoMum Thu 02-Dec-10 13:03:27

Ah, Scruffy I was wondering when someone would find me out...

DD (2.6) refuses to wear anything other than shorts at the moment. She refuses to wear tights under them, but I have managed to source a pair of long socks.

She won't wear a coat, but will wear her hat. She occasionally wears her gloves. She likes to hold my hand when I'm wearing gloves.

Sometimes she will wear a cardigan over her T shirt. If we're very very lucky, she will wear a coat.

I bow to your better parenting, and if you want to come round and reason with her, feel free... confused

Aloneinthehouse Thu 02-Dec-10 13:03:44

In some cases YANBU where it is the parents neglect

However, as the mother of a hot boy who i pratically have to pin down and threaten to get a coat on (even today with the snow falling heavily and temperature at -4) who repeatedly just takes stuff off and throws it away its not that easy in all cases and I will not have that battle of wills if he is cold he will accept the offer of a coat/gloves/hat/scarf I do however, always carry the aforementioned round with me giving the appearence of a pack mule

scruffybird Thu 02-Dec-10 13:03:50

Ok on my own with this one obviously.
What would you do if they refused to wear a coat?

sarah293 Thu 02-Dec-10 13:04:25

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Hulababy Thu 02-Dec-10 13:05:23

8y DD has vests, jumpers, coats, gloves, boots, waterproof trousers, hats, scarves - you name it. Whethe she wears it all is another matter at times. However, my DD takes after my dad and doesn't feel the cold as quickly or in the same way as I do - she is wrapping up at the moment, but gets warm quickly and will shed her hat, etc for a while. Before the snow she wasn't wrapping up as much as she was too hot.

kreecherlivesupstairs Thu 02-Dec-10 13:06:20

Sellotape could be the answer Riven, have you considered that? or drawing pins.......

WoTmania Thu 02-Dec-10 13:07:06

YABU - I make them take coats 'just in case' but often end up carrying them too as my little treasures are hot bods.

MemooMerrilyOnHigh Thu 02-Dec-10 13:07:17

Scruffy, what do you think should be done when a child won't wear a coat or hat?

CandlestickMaker Thu 02-Dec-10 13:07:59

DS would still sweat if I sent him out in just a vest.

"Not always the case. The children I'm refering to are not toddlers and when I asked where their gloves were they said they did not have any."

My DS is 4yo and has gone through 3 pairs of gloves in just over a week, so now he doesn't have any.

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