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stereountypical Wed 01-Dec-10 11:54:31

I am a regular, promise. Obviuosly needed to name change for this. (pom bears, private v state, sahm v mw etc)

I am a woman. I have given birth (vaginally) to 2 DCs, breastfed both. I am in a heterosexual relationship with quite a manly man. I have an hourglass figure, long blonde hair. I wear short skirts, lots of colour and painted my bedroom pink.

However when I read quite a lot of the threads on here it seems like I am more like the DP/DHs I see described.

eg

I dont 'see' dirt/mess around the house. I just leave dishes etc to fester until DP gives in and does them. DP does all the washing/hoovering/kitchen/bathroom cleaning etc. (Although this is partially because I have a disability) When we are both at home he does most of the childcare. I do the driving and control manage the money.

I was v promiscuous in my youth. I wasn't interested in getting into a relationship with any of these men, I just used them to get orgasms.

When DD was tiny it was DP who would get up at night with her. I was/am such a deep sleeper I'd sleep through her cries, even breastfeeding in my sleep.

If DP doesn't get home on time to cook dinner for us I'll just put a pizza in the oven or phone a takeaway or leave the kids to make snacks for themselves. If DP didn't cook us proper meals we'd never eat veg.

I can be quite grumpy in the morning and refuse to get out of bed until someone brings me a cup of tea.

My standards of personal hygeine are minging low. I only shave my armpits/legs about once a month. I have a bath/wash my hair about once a fortnight (and this is only after DP nagging me).

In the past friends have told me that I'm basically a man in a woman's body. Do you think they are right?

Disclaimer: this is slightly in jest. The above is true but was written for a bit of a distraction from the snow so dont flame me too much. grin

theevildead2 Wed 01-Dec-10 11:56:56

Not a man but a bit selfish.

HecateQueenOfWitches Wed 01-Dec-10 11:57:24

If you're basing it on stereotypes, then yes, you have traits that people claim are mens.

I prefer to think that people are people and that our gender doesn't have anything to do with whether or not we like sex, or can see dirt. grin

So I don't think you've anything to worry about wink

Diamondback Wed 01-Dec-10 12:08:03

Being a man in a woman's body is great! I'm fantastic at parking the car and never get stressed when the house is less than perfect grin

anothermum92 Wed 01-Dec-10 12:13:16

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CraigRevelPan Wed 01-Dec-10 12:14:51

Are you me?

Er...how would that work?grin

fffreeezing Wed 01-Dec-10 12:18:07

Have seen stuff in magazines/papers about this, whether you have a 'masculine' or 'feminine' brain. My DSis definately has a masculine brain, v little empathy, flat is a tip!! grin Sorry Sis if you can work out who I am in RL blush

mayorquimby Wed 01-Dec-10 12:22:52

Good at parking?
Now I know this is bollocks.
grin

Ryoko Wed 01-Dec-10 12:23:23

It's called being a tom boy and welcome to the club.

annoyingdevil Wed 01-Dec-10 12:32:02

I have bucket loads of empathy, but don't see mess. confused

Niceguy2 Wed 01-Dec-10 12:33:28

I'd love to be a man trapped in a woman's body. Don't think I'd get much work done though, I'd spend all day playing with my boobs! grin

CraigRevelPan Wed 01-Dec-10 12:35:20

niceguy - suspect you'd get bored fairly quickly....as you will do saying 'look at my face when you talk to me!.

RandyRussian Wed 01-Dec-10 12:40:00

It often depends on whether the main influences on you when you were growing up were male or female.

I know men who are "in touch" with their feminine side and women who seem to think in a masculine sort of way.

IYSWIM

Ryoko Wed 01-Dec-10 12:50:58

I live in jeans, t-shirts and trainers (I don't own any high heels) hardly own any skirts or dresses, haven't warn a dress in about 15 years.

I have no idea what to do with my hair except wash and brush it every so often and tie it in a pony tail, (straighteners those strange chopstick hair tieing up things and the like are a mystery to me).

Make up I wear but I'm not great at it.

I listen to heavy metal, play video games, watch anime, top gear and action movies (no soaps or romantic crap for me thanks)I build Gundam model kits, play electric guitar, I like getting drunk and going pub, I can count the number of female friends I have on one hand, I don't really do cleaning, DP sorts that out (and moans about it endlessly), I have a collection of swords and knives and anime/gaming merchandise, I eat like a student and can't cook anything thats not soup, stir-fry or a roast, I hate shopping.

I have rubbish taste in men (apparently or so I have been told) Charlie Sheen, Richard Hammond, Johnny Knoxville, Dante from the Devil May Cry game series, etc.

I am not a man in a womans body, I am simply a Tom Boy and proud of it.

VagosaurusRex Wed 01-Dec-10 13:25:20

I'm the same, and was lucky enough to marry a woman in a man's body. I am very bad with talking about feelings, whereas DH regularly needs to sit down with a glass of wine and 'share.' He is sensitive and goes with his feelings first, while I intellectualise everything.

I'm also a hideous grot, wake up late and never make breakfast, while he will often mop the kitchen floor and put in a load of washing before going to work. (and I'm a SAHM!)

I suppose I am good for him too, though for the life of me I can't think how.

MrManager Wed 01-Dec-10 13:29:58

HAHAHAHA MEN ARE DISGUSTING JUVENILE WANKERS AREN'T THEY?? HAHAHAHA.

Grow up.

Ooopsadaisy Wed 01-Dec-10 13:34:16

Are you my DP?????

OMG - My DP has been living a double-life. He is really a woman who posts on MN and washes even less frequently that I realised!

alwaysrubbishatnicknames Wed 01-Dec-10 15:03:20

Mr Manager cheer up, it's nearly christmas...

lollipopshoes Wed 01-Dec-10 15:07:59

well, apart from the washing (I wash slightly more often!) You sound just like me.

And... I drink real ale and love football grin

(dp laughs because he cooks and brings me cans of bitter while I'm watching football)

mumblechum Wed 01-Dec-10 15:13:14

I think I have manly traits too, I often think when women are moaning about something really wimpy that they should man up.

also drive like a man, well, tbh I drive like a BMW salesman wanker driver, do parallel parking, do everything really quickly and decisively, don't see the point of excessive house cleaning, etc etc.

I don't look like a man.smile

MrManager Wed 01-Dec-10 15:49:28

I am a man. My wife has given birth (vaginally) to 2 DCs, I've bottle fed both. I am in a heterosexual relationship with quite a girly woman. I have a 'beefcake' figure, short brown hair. I wear trousers, lots of dark colours and grey and painted my bedroom blue.

However when I read quite a lot of the threads on here it seems like I am more like the DP/DWs I see described.

eg

I constantly 'see' dirt/mess around the house. I have to clean all the dishes in the house since DW never gives in and does them. I do all the washing/hoovering/kitchen/bathroom cleaning etc. When we are both at home I do most of the childcare. She does the driving and manages the money.

I was v chaste in my youth. I was only interested in getting into a relationship with any of these women, I wasn’t interested in using them to get orgasms.

When DD was tiny I would get up at night with her. DW was/is such a deep sleeper she'd sleep through her cries.

I’ll get home on time to cook dinner for us. I try to only make the healthiest home-made stuff. If I didn't cook us proper meals we'd never eat veg!

I am the perfect morning person and will jump out of bed to make tea for my DW and breakfast/packed lunches for the DC.

My standards of personal hygiene are super high. I shave and wax all (!) body hair twice a week. I have a bath/wash my hair every (and this is despite DW nagging me not to).

In the past friends have told me that I'm basically a woman in a man's body. Do you think they are right?

scaredoflove Wed 01-Dec-10 15:58:03

My gay friends say I'm a gay man in a woman's body

My gaydar works better than theirs, I'm immaculately turned out but not in a girlie way at all and I love highly muscular men

geekygiraffe Wed 01-Dec-10 15:58:52

I can be quite tomboyish, but I can't park. Lord knows what that makes me ; 0
Haven't parallel parked since my driving test, despite living on terraced road with too many cars, and tend to walk 200m to get an easier space. blush

alwaysrubbishatnicknames Wed 01-Dec-10 16:00:01

MrManager I'm also a man. I recognise a lot of what you say about yourself (though I'm more of a hairy steak pie than a shaven beefcake)



I'm also able to differentiate between nasty sexist stereotyping & light hearted humour

TheSmallClanger Wed 01-Dec-10 16:05:15

I hate housework, and would rather tolerate quite a lot of mess than spend hours cleaning up.

I have very short hair, and have done for years.

Although I occasionally wear tunic-type dresses with leggings, I don't own any skirts or high heels.

I do not do lingerie. Underwear, yes, lingerie, no.

I like rockets, space shuttles, and Subaru Imprezas. I still want to be a rally driver when I grow up.

Not sure what this makes me - I'm happy to identify as female, but I can pass on most of femininity.

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