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To think DP could have shown more concern for MY safety?

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Snowday10 Wed 01-Dec-10 09:49:30

Last saturday night, a bloke who was either drunk or high kept getting up from his seat in the cinema and leaving the room, each time stumbling past me and DP and walking behind us (we were sat at the back). DP later said "he was really bothering me". I said "I know, I feel so uncomfortable when people are stumbling around behind me" and he replied "yeah I know, I was getting ready to have a go ... if he'd touched me at all".

Absolutely no mention of his concern for me. just for himself.

Would this have bothered you or am I reading too much into it?

I know for a fact my ex would have said

"I was getting ready to have a go, if they'd touched YOU at all".

Frazzledmumwithsmudgedmascara Wed 01-Dec-10 09:51:46

YABVU, why would you want your DH to have a go at someone for knocking into him/you? It doesn't sound as though this bloke was doing anything particularly troublemaking apart from being a bit annoying when you were truing to watch a film.

bigbarnfarm Wed 01-Dec-10 09:52:51


Yeah, "having a go" is a bit ott isn't it? What does he mean by have a go?

welshbyrd Wed 01-Dec-10 09:52:59

Im sure he meant the both of you, maybe im wrong,men sometimes, dont always say, the way they think,if he felt uncomfortable, im sure he must have known you were too. I think YABVU comparing him to an ex though.

Snowday10 Wed 01-Dec-10 09:53:39

I didn't want him to knock him out or even have a go at him. I was just pissed off at his attitude that he would have if he'd touched HIM. With no concern at all for me.

Snowday10 Wed 01-Dec-10 09:53:39

I didn't want him to knock him out or even have a go at him. I was just pissed off at his attitude that he would have if he'd touched HIM. With no concern at all for me.

welshbyrd Wed 01-Dec-10 09:54:36

Also, would have wanted him to make a scene in the middle of a cinema, because someone was annoying(not threatening, or aggressive) why didnt you move seats?

LaurieFairyonthetreeEatsCake Wed 01-Dec-10 09:58:11

It's not no concern for you confused maybe he thinks that you are an equal adult who would have said something yourself to the guy behind you hmm

Maybe your dh doesn't think you are a fluffy wuffy bunny

GypsyMoth Wed 01-Dec-10 10:00:12

I have read your other thread where you say you no linger feel you love him

Not sure what to think really

thefurryone Wed 01-Dec-10 10:06:45

YABU it was in a cinema and dark so how was he supposed to know if the guy touched you! Perhaps he thinks your an adult who can look after yourself if someone they don't want to brushes past you. I'm sure if they guy had fallen on you/ hit you your DH would have reacted.

Do you still hanker after your ex is that why you are comparing them?

HecateQueenOfWitches Wed 01-Dec-10 10:08:20

did you feel that you were in any danger?

HecateQueenOfWitches Wed 01-Dec-10 10:08:52

It's just that I can't really see how a bloke stumbling around is a threat to your safety.

mayorquimby Wed 01-Dec-10 10:18:45

FFS grow up.
A man standing up behind you is not a threat to your safety.

InPraiseOfBacchus Wed 01-Dec-10 10:19:05

You're a big girl now. He's your husband, not your personal bodyguard. It doesn't sound like this stranger was actually being threatening. Grow up and drop the ickly wifey fantasy.

RealityVom Wed 01-Dec-10 10:20:19

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

LaurieFairyonthetreeEatsCake Wed 01-Dec-10 10:21:36

What makes you think this is Boxroom?
<genuine question>

HecateQueenOfWitches Wed 01-Dec-10 10:21:57

boxroom? I don't get it?

RealityVom Wed 01-Dec-10 10:24:09

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

bintofbohemia Wed 01-Dec-10 10:24:28

What is Boxroom?

LaurieFairyonthetreeEatsCake Wed 01-Dec-10 10:26:16

gosh, didn't realise the daftie had got married.


HecateQueenOfWitches Wed 01-Dec-10 10:27:19

ah! the boxroom troll.

How on earth do you remember the posting styles of people? And how do you know that a posting style is so unique?

If I namechanged, would you know it was me? grin

GypsyMoth Wed 01-Dec-10 10:28:44

Well there's another thread which expands on this one.....

RealityVom Wed 01-Dec-10 10:31:06

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

GypsyMoth Wed 01-Dec-10 10:34:21

The other thread is in active convi list,just posted on it

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HecateQueenOfWitches Wed 01-Dec-10 12:54:52

Or I am! grin

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