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AIBU?

to think it's not acceptable to be this fucking rude?

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peeringintothevoid · 30/11/2010 21:21

I've never posted a fred about a fred before, but I'm burning with a sense of injustice. Hmm Grin

There's a thread that's really annoyed me, and I'm bringing it up here because I'm digressing from the OP completely (and noone's replying there Grin )

On this thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1094020-to-think-hubby-should-have-cut-short-his-bender/AllOnOnePage#22509239 (p5) a man posting a 'male perspetive' on a situation was called, by one poster, the following:

Stupid, lazy and selfish.
Childish.
Ignorant twat.
Cunt.
Selfish dick.
You really are quite thick, aren't you? DimGuy (a derogatory play on his username).
Gobshite.
Stupid, sexist, patronising, lazy and shite.
Utter fucking knobhead.

The (male) poster had been nothing but polite in his posts, and was trying to make a useful and respectful contribution to the thread.

Do something for me: imagine that a woman had posted a 'female perspective' on a male-dominated forum. All the other replies were from men, being supportive of the male OP. Our woman comes along and tries to describe how many but not all (he made that distinction) women might view this situation. The woman poster is called the names I listed above. I think that would strike many of you as being unreasonable and chauvinistic. AIBU?

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BitOfFun · 30/11/2010 21:22

I think you have missed the point that most posters on that thread have seen this ManTroll before and know his agenda.

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booyhoo · 30/11/2010 21:24

i think that one poster who called him all those names need to get her/his issues sorted. haven't seen the thread but think i know which male poster is referred to. unless his post made it clear he was all of those things then i think it's extremely rude and agressive.

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BoysAreLikeDogs · 30/11/2010 21:24

yy what BOF said

and the usual blah about trailing grievances around the board etc

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booyhoo · 30/11/2010 21:25

oh, maybe I'm thinking of a different male poster.

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booyhoo · 30/11/2010 21:25

going to read that thread now.

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peeringintothevoid · 30/11/2010 21:25

Really BOF ? There was no mention of him being a troll, and nothing whatsoever in his posts sounded even slightly provocative or troll-like to me. Hmm

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BitOfFun · 30/11/2010 21:27

You haven't seen his M.O. in full swing then.

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booyhoo · 30/11/2010 21:27

ok, can't be arsed reading whole thread. but yes that particular male poster does tend to rub people up the wrong way.

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BitOfFun · 30/11/2010 21:28

Not that I was rude to him- I avoid him now. He's a twit.

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usualsuspect · 30/11/2010 21:28

Is he a mantroll? I never though he was but then I'm not a MN troll expert

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peeringintothevoid · 30/11/2010 21:29

I've never "trailed a grievance around the board" before. The point I'm making is that many threads on here are chauvinistic - it's ok to refer to men in a way that would be seen as unacceptably derogatory to women, either directly or indirectly.

In a way, that's understandable - it's redressing a historical imbalance. But when so many on here (rightly) bang on about equality and fairness, then it cuts both fucking ways, doesn't it?

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ChristmasPFB · 30/11/2010 21:30

Ah - Niceguy is a troll for sure.

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classydiva · 30/11/2010 21:32

I think like any forum some posts are going to piss people off, but it does not mean any poster should get slagged off because their perspective differs from another.

We are all individuals and have different opinions.

Just because a guy posted his perspective it gave no one the right to slag them off and call them names.

The person or persons who did the name calling is obviously threatened by a male donimance and probably talks like that to females too.

Some people just have no manners and no intelligence and seek to reduce threads to the basics because that is all they can deal with and are unable to have a reasoned discussion.

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BitOfFun · 30/11/2010 21:34

I never feel the need to be courteous to complete knobs though- male or female. I am sometimes rude, but in a very equal opportunities way.

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peeringintothevoid · 30/11/2010 21:34

So...sorry let me get this straight... (I've never come across this bloke before)....because you seem to have previously formed an opinion about him, it would be ok to call him these things.

Hey, I don't agree with you BOF, I think you're a stupid, lazy, selfish, childish, ignorant twat. A cunt, a selfish dick, a thick DimGuy; stupid, sexist, patronising, lazy shite gobshite. Oh, and an utter fucking knobhead.

No offence though, eh?

Or would that be offensive?

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BitOfFun · 30/11/2010 21:35

No, it's fine

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peeringintothevoid · 30/11/2010 21:37

BOF* Especially as your messages prior to that barrage of insults had been nothing but reasonable and relevant to the thread?

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booyhoo · 30/11/2010 21:37

"Hey, I don't agree with you BOF, I think you're a stupid, lazy, selfish, childish, ignorant twat. A cunt, a selfish dick, a thick DimGuy; stupid, sexist, patronising, lazy shite gobshite. Oh, and an utter fucking knobhead."

we are all entitled to our opinions Wink

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booyhoo · 30/11/2010 21:38

not that i agree with taht particular one of your OP. i do love our BOF. Grin

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Hullygully · 30/11/2010 21:38

cunt

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peeringintothevoid · 30/11/2010 21:40

And based on his posts in this thread, there was nothing whatsoever to indicate that he was a troll. He was respectful, articulate and thoughtful, and there was nothing inflammatory about his posts. He might have come across as a bit of twat on other thread, for all I know, but to pile in to someone who is expressing their opinion in a polite way, just because they don't agree with you, is pathetic playground stuff, IMO.

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BitOfFun · 30/11/2010 21:40

That too.

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sixpercenttruejedi · 30/11/2010 21:42

but the blokes a persistent knob.

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peeringintothevoid · 30/11/2010 21:42

Now don't try to dilute my outrage with humour. Grin

And I still maintain that feminists should not use the word cunt as an insult. Why should a woman's vagina be seen as the most taboo and disgusting thing to call someone? I've tried not to say it any more, but it's just such a satisfying sound. Grin

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sausagelover · 30/11/2010 21:43

I used to post on a male dominated forum and I think you would all be quite shocked at the sort of thing guys said about women and to the few women posters on that forum.

It doesn't make it right of course, however I just wanted to point out that it works both ways.

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