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altinkum Mon 29-Nov-10 09:02:55

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TheGhostOfDrRumack Mon 29-Nov-10 09:06:01

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RiverOfSleep Mon 29-Nov-10 09:06:10

So - just checking I've understood this - hes got the option of coming home from work and taking his sick wife and child to the doctors and he has refused?

Y A most definately N B U

kreecherlivesupstairs Mon 29-Nov-10 09:06:14

Does your DH realise how dangerous asthma is? I think he is being exceptionally stupid, it's not just you that it affects, it is his own child
IIWY, I'd be on the phone demanding that he came home and helped.
Good luck with your appointment.

altinkum Mon 29-Nov-10 09:06:41

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kreecherlivesupstairs Mon 29-Nov-10 09:06:58

Sorry, I am not implying that your health is less important than your sons.

altinkum Mon 29-Nov-10 09:38:18

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bigchris Mon 29-Nov-10 09:40:59

Could some one else come round to watch the other kids while you and ds go to the doctors ?

DrewsGirl Mon 29-Nov-10 09:44:14

YANBU - I would go mental angry, its not great when your FIL cares more than your DH. Hope your appointments go ok

altinkum Mon 29-Nov-10 09:47:03

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fedupofnamechanging Mon 29-Nov-10 10:02:14

Well, if he was mine, I'd put his clothes in bin bags in the garden and tell him to sleep at work too!

If he's not going to care for you and his children properly, then he might as well not be there at all.

cherrybea Mon 29-Nov-10 10:05:56

Didn't you have an asthma attack at the weekend as well!!

<double checks spreadsheet>

I'm shocked and appalled on your behalf, YANBU! He's being a complete twat!

altinkum Mon 29-Nov-10 10:07:42

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altinkum Mon 29-Nov-10 10:08:17

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PfftTheMagicDragon Mon 29-Nov-10 10:10:45

Well done for calling his dad, maybe he can knock some sense into him!

herbietea Mon 29-Nov-10 10:10:53

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cherrybea Mon 29-Nov-10 10:14:41

Could he be worried about money if there's little work about. We're in the NE and dh is self-employed and he'll get anywhere in this weather to make a bit money. Could he be frightened he misses any work that comes in if he's at home?

altinkum Mon 29-Nov-10 10:20:29

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staranise Mon 29-Nov-10 10:23:15

An un-MN ((hug)) to you and your DH - hope you get through today ok.

cherrybea Mon 29-Nov-10 10:25:52

Ahh feel guilty now blush, give him a hug and have a nice chat. Life gets on top of all of us from time to time and I bet your health at the weekend gave him quite a fright.

Hope you enjoy your day together with dc and you get to your drs appointments through the snow.

EricNorthpolesChristmas Mon 29-Nov-10 10:26:00

Blimey shock
There's no way that a decent man would refuse to come home to help without something big going on, sounds like he's feeling the pressure massively. Do you mean that you are looking after your DNieces full time? Are you receiving CB and CTC for them? Not to mention carers allowance if appropriate - sounds like he's struggling with 'provider' role, so make sure you are getting all that you can.

fedupofnamechanging Mon 29-Nov-10 10:33:55

Feel guilty too. Sorry I told you to make him sleep at work etc. Hope things are okay

altinkum Mon 29-Nov-10 10:45:26

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Onetoomanycornettos Mon 29-Nov-10 10:49:04

He sounds overwhelmed, as we all get from time to time. So glad you have a family around you to support you, you must look after yourself as well as the lynchpin of it all. No point in shouting at him, we all stuff up and it sounds like he's coming home to help. Hugs all round when he gets back.

FunkySnowSkeleton Mon 29-Nov-10 10:55:18

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