To think it's about time MNetters gave up the pretence

[BlueyDragon]

...that we don't do hugs. Plenty are given, just described as un-MNetty. Why? We have the , we have the . Why not the [hug]?

[nevergoogle]

[AgentZigzag]

I unashamably (is that a word?) hand out hugs whenever the situation arises

But then I've never been on NetMums and seen for myself the devestation they can wreck.

[Tiredmumno1]

is that better

[UnrequitedSkink]

Please, HOW do you get that pombear?!

[SantasNutellaFairy]

because hugs are offered freely and indiscriminately and insincerely on other forums.

When they are offered here, it's generally because there are no words to console/advise, although most will have tried to use those first.

[AgentZigzag]

Have you no manners nevergoogle?

Never. headbutt. the. OP. and. leave.

At least stay to see the effects of it.

[bees474]

What is that teddy thing?

[marriednotdead]

[bear] without the *s.

SNF has got it in a nutshell.

[tethersjinglebellend]

[mylifewithstrangers]

YANBU. I get right fecked off seeing the 'Have an un-mumsnetty hug' thing (and it happens a lot). MNetters are by and large a big-hearted and compassionate lot (you are you buggers, admit it). What is the shame in offering a hug? We all need one sometimes, virtual or not

[PrincessBoo]

'Hugs' are fine.

However, 'Hugzzzz hun/hon' deserves an instant electric shock from the keyboard.

[SantasNutellaFairy]

urgh- get those things away from me!

[BlueyDragon]

Goodness me, I'm not suggesting entirely indiscriminate hugging. I have sufficient faith in your average MNetter to believe that there won't be Public Displays of Affection all over the threads. In fact I'd like to prove it by offering nevergoogle outside rather than any sort of conciliatory/understanding hug.

If it's a matter of inter-nicene thread pride, then of course we should continue to pretend we don't offer hugs unless we are behaving in a fashion other than the norm. I just wondered if perhaps we couldn't just offer a hug when we felt like it and without having to explain them. I'm not the huggy type so don't have a fear of spraying them around without thinking.

Unrequited, try [ bear ] without the spaces.

[LaWeaselMys]

I don't think I have ever offered a hug.

[cold-hearted bitch alert]

[actually usually just don't feel like I've got anything to add at that point.]

[UnrequitedSkink]

[UnrequitedSkink]

Yippeeee! Big hugs to all who helped

[catinthehat2]

I don't even do hugs in real life if I can avoid it.

FGS

[BlueyDragon]

PrincessBoo, I am with you on that.

[GrimmaTheNome]

but we don't want [heart], do we?

[BlueyDragon]

So don't do it here catinthehat2. I'm not suggesting you have to, just that you should be able to if you want to.

[BlueyDragon]

Ugh, Grimma, no.

[BlueyDragon]

And thank you Tiredmum.

[catinthehat2]

"you should be able to if you want to"

hippies

[KatieScarlett2833]

anyone?

[mugggletoeandwine]

There is no shame in offering a hug.
The difference between here and other, lesser forums is that they are given here when necessary and needed.
On other sites that's all they do.

I feel sick, I need to take DD to Nursery-Aww hun, hugs.
I'm not coping well with my teen, what do you do when your teen backchats constantly-Aww hun, hugs.
I have a 9yr old who is hard work, she seems to hate me-Aww hun, hugs.
I have cancer-Aww hun, hugs.
etc, etc,etc.
You get it I'm sure.
It means nothing, it is nothing, unless backed up with support and that does come from here I find.